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Dad was an abusive alcoholic when I was a kid. He has reformed somewhat, though still drinks, to the point that we have a relationship, but I don’t completely trust him.
Mom died this year and it’s his first Christmas alone.
Mom and dad rarely visited me.
When mom tried to visit solo he would get huffy about it.
My 9yo daughter had a serious injury recently and life is just hard right now with taking care of her. She will 100% recover, but at the moment she needs help with even the simplest tasks and we are getting up multiple times in the night. It’s a bit like having a 3 year old again, but one who is in pain and upset at her loss of privacy.
The guest room is also my office and craft room. It is currently a disaster with craft supplies everywhere because I am mid reorganizing.
I am not 100% ok with my dad dating, despite the fact that I don’t want him to be lonely and understand that widowers often date quickly.
Woman he is interested in dating lives near me. So he gets idea that he will come and stay at my house for Christmas, not be alone, and meet her in person. Kill two birds with one stone kind of thing.
He doesn’t want to rent a car despite my living in an area with zero public transit or cabs.
I told him it wasn’t a good time for him to visit. I feel like a bitch.