To not know what to do

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Long story short
DD nearly 10. Been having a hard time with friends at school , tbh she's hard work with friends , she doesn't find them easy and partly because she's very strong willed!! Anyway I've spoken to school and they said she's ok , some girls are being mean but she has other friends but they said if there is issues she needs to tell them.
Today some girls wouldn't let her play so she told her teacher and her teacher said she should leave them have some time alone.
She's come home at 3.15 and done nothing but create , shout , scream , cry etc which is fine however this is every single weekend, every Friday and Saturday she's like this then Sunday she's crying about going back!
I don't know what to do next! School are mega fed up of me fussing and I get it because sometimes there is nothing more then can do!
She's currently lying on the floor screaming and banging her feet!
Advice please!

Your daughter needs professional help and you may want to reexamine how you're parenting her. What kind of consequences does she face when acting this way? This type of behaviour from a 10 year old is totally outrageous and unacceptable. You say it's "fine" that she's screaming and carrying on. It is definitely not fine.

What would you suggest I do? I try talking to her she just screams back at me to which I then ignore her and tell her to go to her room. I'm unsure what sort of discipline might help because other than ignore it which isn't helping I don't know what else I can do? She's actually calmed down now and is watching tv with me. I am looking at seeking professional help but there isn't a lot they can do either really especially given there is a massive waiting list for any services .

Is there any chance she has additional needs. It is often the case that children can suppress anxieties and frustrations during the school day then vent in the relatively safe environment at home. Difficult friendships may result from social issues and a rigid way of thinking.

She's a really bright girl , I do wonder if she's on a spectrum but no one takes me seriously . She is very literal and she really finds social situations hard work and as she's getting older it's getting harder . The school wouldn't support me with my eldest when he needed support so they won't with her because she's a model pupil!