To use blackmail to get my granddad to go to the doctors?

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NC for this in case my cousins see this.

85 year old granddad won’t go to the doctors unless he’s dead or dying.

Had a car accident yesterday and his neck is stiff. We both think whip lash, but I want a professional opinion. GP has a policy of getting over 70s in same day even if they need a routine appointment so I know he’d get in.

But he won’t go says it’s a waste of resources and there a people much more ill than him. He can’t move his head and is struggling with walking, so I think it’s not a waste.

My mum, aunts and cousins have failed to persuade him to go.

Tempted to tell him that I won’t take my 3 year old DC over to see him if he doesn’t go. My DC is his only great grandchild and I’ve been taking them weekly to see my granddad, they both get on well and gdad says that he looks forward to seeing her. It would be really upsetting for my DC to see him in pain but they would understand if I said he’d seen a doctor. I can well imagine DC telling him he needs to go to the Doctor themselves anyway.

WIBU? Or is that really bad?

I think he’s old enough to make his own mind up. If the pain persists then he will probably go. I suspect they won’t do anything for whiplash anyway at the GP.

Sorry so yes YABU

If it’s whiplash, there’s nothing g can be done for it unfortunately, so unless there’s another concern I think your Grandad’s not being unreasonable this

At the end of the day, providing he has the mental capacity to make his own decisions, he has clearly said he doesn’t want to see GP so you must respect his wishes, hard as that will be. Don’t blackmail him that’s not fair plus he may dig his heels in even more.

He's old enough to decide for himself. Leave him to it.

Leave him alone, poor chap. He's completely entitled to make his own decisions on this matter. He's not your child!

I would respect his decision and back off.

Thanks, I expected to be told I was UR, I just worry about him being in pain, but won't force him.

Go & see him with DC & spoil him a bit, a lot of young children enjoy caring for people, buy granddad a micowave heat pad (or hot water bottle), & maybe bring lunch so he doesn't have to move around a lot. Does he have simple over the counter painkillers at home ( if he can take them). Pain usually gets worse a few days after an injury before it starts to improve www.nhs.uk/conditions/whiplash/