How to deal with Grandparent putting teen off chosen career.

[Diamondsandstones]

Teen DD is an army cadet and is seriously considering a career in the army.
She and my Dad are very close. Hes lovely usually and I understand he is probably worried.

However he keeps coming out with comments to put her off. Even army cadets. For info DD wants to go in as medical .

I.e you would be better off joining X not the army.
A recruitment test , why do you need a recruitment exam when you are just told what to do in the army you don't need an exam .
And similar each time we see him.

Army cadets has been a huge turning point for DD. She struggled massively with confidence and socially.
She might not even go in but aibu to not want her put off if she does?

Lots of people try to put their DC off joining the forces. It's dangerous. My brother was not to be put off by everybody telling him that he would get blown up etc.

If your DC want to be in the army they will do it regardless of what their family say.

If you support them let them know it will help them with their decision.

Joining the Forces is perhaps more dangerous than being a secretary in a primary school, but then again walking the streets of London can be very dangerous these days, as can driving to work (I almost got taken out by an HGV yesterday, who's driver decided to overtake a cyclist on a blind corner on the top of a hill). Also, joining the Army doesn't mean you will be a frontline soldier, there is a lot more to it than that.

I would say have a word with your dad. He clearly has some opinion of the Army that isn't based in fact. Yes you are expected to follow (lawful) orders, but you are expected to have a brain as well. As you progress, you will also be expected to give orders.