Name changed and so not want to drip feed so maybe a bit long
Daughter is nearly 5 and really ill since birth ...I solely care for her with no matinence and for the first 4 years barely any visits as he never turned up / made excuses / off his face on drugs. There’s a lot I could tell you but we would be here all day but put it this way he didn’t ring or reply for 2 weeks after she had open heart surgery to even know she had made it through.
Soooo he used to just decide when he was coming to see her and it was between 1-2 times a year and one of those times were mainly birthday when it was his mum who wanted to visit. When visiting he comes across as the perfect dad but never even asked about her in between it could be 3-4 months before he would even ask if she was ok.
Never paid when he was meant to.
July 2017 he informed me he was coming down at the weekend but I had arrangements I couldn’t change and so I said I was sorry but it would have to be the weekend after.
This caused a riot, phone calls from his mum saying I was preventing contact etc
Which is not true if anything I have tried to maintain contact.
Anyway after the verbal abuse over the phone I made an agreement that we would set dates so both of us know exactly when.
We decided the last weekend of every month Saturday and Sunday 12-6.
So this was July 2017 but by November 2017 he had not made one of his weekend blaming work.
Then November he promised to take her to this certain place and 2 days before due rang to cancel because of work but was doing to actually being ok holiday for 3 weeks in a foreign country.
He didn’t friend turn up to one visit until this year in June !! So 11 months after he kicked of at me for saying no to one weekend.
He made it down in July and then never arrived in August without letting us know and then made it down September but skipped October.
So basically since July 2017 to now has made it 4 weekends out of 18 he was due to come.
So I asked him this month if he was coming down he said yes so I kept this weekend ( 24th and the 25th free ) the last weekend of the month but booked days out with family for Xmas next weekend.
For him to declare his booked his tickets for next weekend not this weekend as next weekend is the last weekend of the month.
I told him it wasn’t and he said oh well yes so you know if the 1st lands on a weekend it’s that weekend I’m coming !
( who’s right here I assumed this weekend was the last weekend of the month )
Second issue is he promised her a certain gift for Xmas that she wanted ... but is now claiming he doesn’t have the money for it.
I will get it for her because I don’t want her to be disappointed but he thinks it’s fair to be labelled from us not me.