Hi everyone. I know ianbu for being furious but I'm not sure what to do about it. I'm full of a nasty head cold and pre menstrual so I might need a reality check.
The two ds's and I ( 11 and 12) do a martial art together in a group of about 10 of all ages. The usual tutor is on holiday, and the black belt leading the class is a fully qualified master to attends regularly.
One of the other students is a girl aged 11, but is in the school year between my two. She causes quite a bit of upset regularly but we all persist with her as we know she has not had the best of times at home.
From what we know, she has recently been adopted by her long term foster carer, so life can't have been easy for her in her early childhood. However, we have witnessed her slapping her adoptive mum round the face in the past, she has bragged that she was suspended from school/ put in a PRU in her first week of senior school for assaulting a teacher. There other examples of her behaviour but those are the most extreme.
Tonight, she was sparring with my eldest first. I need to point out that all our exercises are strictly no contact. We don't wear pads and have to keep our distance.
On two occasions she was pulled by the tutor for kicking my eldest d's. First in the head then in the stomach. He was not injured as he managed to dodge.
She then tried to kick him in the privates. Again he dodged so was not hurt.
The tutor stopped us all and sent her to the corner after speaking to her. She just responded with sulky silence.
The rest of us then carried on, and the tutor went over to speak to her about her behaviour, I don't know what was said exactly.
After a break, we swapped partners and she rejoined us, she was paired with my youngest. After a few seconds she again was making contact with her kicks and trying to kick him in the privates on purpose. He was not hurt but that's not the point.
At this point, the tutor, myself and the other black belt stopped the session, told her her behaviour was not acceptable and that she was welcome to leave if she called her parent to collect her.
She did not have a phone, and the number we have for the adoptive mum was not being answered.
She was excluded from the rest of the session, and sat on a chair drawing in pencil on a table. Several times she tried to disrupt the rest of the students.
As she wasn't getting the attention she wanted she then went to the toilets for 20 mins.
The male tutor asked me as the only female adult to go and check on her just in case.
When I did check on her she was fine, in a strop and pushed past me to rip the door out of my hands to storm out without speaking or responding.
I said to the tutor outside that i thought her behaviour is disgusting and that we do need to be treated like this by an 11 year old. I said this in her hearing but she did not acknowledge.
It was then the end of the session and we all packed up and went home. I was talking to the tutor about it and he said if it was his club she would not be welcome back.
So....
What do I do?
The usual tutor is back next week who knows this child much better than the stand in tutor and I do.
Do I speak to him?
Or do I just let it go as no one was hurt, this girl obviously has issues and getting her kicked out will do her no good as I think it might be one of the few positives in her life.
I don't want to be pearl clutchy but if it was a boy trying to kick two girls in the privates on purpose it would much more quickly be termed sexual assault.
I also need to point out that the club is run completely by volunteers. They are all insured, dbs checked and qualified, but none should have to deal with this crap when there's 10 other kids who want to learn.....
Thoughts? 