To wonder how my neighbour is SO LOUD

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Terraced new build (sh*tty thin walls) my neighbour is so loud, I don't want to ask her to 'be quiet' because she's literally just pottering about in her house but she must walk round in her shoes all night and her kids must do also ! All I can hear is them running round on the wooden floors, her son screams all the time to when they are in.. I really don't know why he's at least 4 years old! I would blame the rubbish new build for it but Iv never heard my neighbour on the other side once in 3 years !! I would be unreasonable to ask her to keep it down because she's not actually doing anything she could stop doing I guess, sounds like she's constantly moving furniture tbh but Iv seen in her living room and she doesn't have much to move ! So what would you do?

also, her neighbour on the other side plays music now and again and she text him a big essay asking him turn it of because it's upsetting her son, which I found hilarious to say her son screams all night and her daughter bangs on the walls!

Really feel for you.

Could you get a friend round for coffee, stand really close to the thin walls and have an exagerated loud conversation about how thin the walls are and how you hear literally everything through them, blame the builders etc...that sort of thing (when the neighbour is in and will hear?)

This is something I have to do a lot in hotels (to very good effect)...loud neighbours coming in banging at night...well I just get up extra early, loudly bang the door on my way out and have “mock” conversations in the corridor about how loud it is and “pretend”conversations with the hotel staff “good morning, yes, all great, thanks”.....other occupants quickly learn to moderate their noise for the next night!

Some people are just heavy footed I think. I remember scaring the living daylights out of a friend I was staying with when I managed to come downstairs (wooden stairs) and through the house (all tiled and wood) without her hearing me coming - both her housemates stomped everywhere. I grew up with a parent on night shifts so I had to learn to be quiet!

You could say something to her though, maybe 'I hate to mention it, but the walls are so thin - do you wear your shoes in the house? I can hear every step.' Slippers for Xmas? Suggests some nice thick rugs?

People are inconsiderate, selfish bastards. I prefer animals. I wish I had a detached house. I feel your pain more than you know

YANBU. Also in a thin walled terrace house. Had a lovely couple in their 50's next door for 8 years, never heard a peep. New young couple moved in last year and dear god they're like a herd of bloody elephants. I'm convinced they've lifted the carpets and skimmed the doors. Thump thump thump up and down the stairs next to my bedroom until 11.30pm every night, and again from 5am every fucking morning, and they constantly slam doors, I've never known anyone to open and slam shut their doors 10,000 times a day. Just sit down and relax you weirdos. Oh and the bloke likes to hack up phlegm for 15 minutes every morning which makes me boak. Selfish bastards with no consideration for others. end of my tether

I'm joining in! Semi detached, not even particularly new build (maybe 1990?) but the walls are like paper. Hardly heard the old neighbours but now new ones have moved in - family motto appears to be why say something when you can scream it? Then when they finally go out their dogs start barking and don't stop until the family come back and start shouting again 😫

Shall we all make a pact to buy a row of terraced houses and pick one each? I promise you won't hear shit from me. Who's in?!

Feel your pain, my neighbours are incredibly noisy. When they moved in I moaned about it to my mum who basically accused me of being uptight and over sensitive.
However she has totally changed her tune after looking after my dd at my house over the summer.
In the morning I get to enjoy hearing the mum screaming at her son most mornings to get ready (he’s 7), the dog barks throughout the day (thank god I work) and then in the evening I get to enjoy whatever shite they are watching on tv and to listen to their conversations (they rarely appear to be in the same room and each conversation consists of shouting from room to room)
The little boy is allowed to stay up til about 11pm- which explains why he is so apparently useless in the morning.....

Oh God. Next doors youngest has a tantrum twice a day. Not just a bit of a whinge, but a tonsil warbler scream, with heading so s afterwards. I have knocked and asked could she just stop. DH was on a business call and her roaring was a bit of a distraction.
Last week the 3 kids were having some sort of a dispute in their hall. We were in ours getting ready to go out and we just joined in. Really let rip and it all went quiet after a bit.
The mum is lovely but the kids are very highly strung or bored.
Slam doors.
Pound about.
They fight endlessly.
The middle one threw the small one off the toilet mid wee....I know this as I was in the garden and their bathroom. Window was wide open.
That particular row nearly took the roof off.
They spent a large part of the summer staring over the garden fence so j erected a screen. They went further up the garden to share.
It is doing my head in.
I want to move so badly.
Our house is 1930s terrace one thin row of bricks between and it's just awful.

I lived in a terrace for 6 years and had one v noisy neighbour and one v quiet one. It transpired that the noisy neighbour also had a v noisy neighbour (other side) and a quiet neighbour (us) and our quiet neighbour had a noisy neighbour (us) and a quiet one (other side).

Basically, it was something to do with the shared chimney and sound travelling one way. We could walk in bare feet across the floor and one neighbour would hear it like a herd of elephants, the other not at all. Same was true for the whole terrace

@ShowOfHands unfortunately it's not just me the neighbour in the other side slags them of every time she sees me! Unfortunately for her though the neighbour in the other side of her is just as bad ! I got lucky I guess only having 1 noisy neighbour 😂

I’m sure the trend for wooden/laminate floors doesn’t help with this at all.
Neighbours opposite had carpet and we never heard a peep. Cue new neighbours moving in and putting laminate throughout. We can hear everything.. not just the shouting but even normal conversation. I know wood is very practical but god is it anti-social (and not very..err...private 😳)