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AIBU?

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Something playing on my mind

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Auntieaunt · 22/11/2018 16:09

There's a couple of things that I can't seem to 'get over'.

I started going out with my BF in spring, he had been with his former girlfriend for 5+ years, but he ended it with her, left it a few months and we got together.

The other day the ex came up as a suggested follower on Instagram. Out of curiosity I had a look at her profile and he's liked every picture she's posted since we've been together including selfies/full body shots of just her. I don't think i'd be too bothered if they stayed following each other/he liked her family pics as he was involved as a member of the family for years.

The second thing is is that I asked to borrow one of his phones (Work or Personal) as we were taking two cars and my phone had died for google maps. He said that he might of got a work call or a personal call, I told him I wouldn't answer either unless he wanted me to but I don't understand why he would be so defensive/secretive especially as I needed to borrow a phone as I had no clue where I was going.

I'm not mad but it's just festering under my skin. I don't want to bring it up as I don't want to come across as possessive. AIBU?

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InspectorIkmen · 22/11/2018 16:16

YANBU. He's not over her and he's not that into you. Harsh but true. I'd be inclined to break with him until he can decide where it is he wants to be.

Breakyourselfagainstmystones · 22/11/2018 16:18

Neither of these things would bother me. I wouldn't lend my phone out either, and unless she's posting 10 selfies a day and he likes them all I don't think it's that unusual to like photos that pop up on your feed without it meaning anything.

R3b3kah · 22/11/2018 16:22

If he has nothing to hide he would let you borrow one of them.
He’s clearly being secretive and is up to something.
My problem is I can’t keep my mouth shut so I wouldn’t be able to keep quiet if he was acting suspicious.
I hope you get to the bottom of it, it’s not a nice feeling I’ve been there (kinda still am)

Auntieaunt · 22/11/2018 16:49

Three different opinions aye.

He was getting a mortgage with his ex, and it was pretty serious but he broke it off to be with me. I don't know why i'm jealous/annoyed/curious over the Instagram account.

He's just very possessive over his phones. I just feel like he's hiding something. Reading that back I seem crazy.

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