To be a bit miffed - but am I being unreasonable?

[turquoiseseagreen]

A few weeks ago I was chatting to a good friend on WhatsApp. We used to be really close but the friendship has drifted a bit now she’s moved.

We ended the chat with a ‘must see each other soon’ and I said something like ‘let me know when suits you.’

Anyway she replied now a few weeks on basically listing every weekend and saying she is busy!

AIBU to feel a bit annoyed? i feel as if I am pestering her to see her (I’m not!) and as if she’s showing me how super busy she is!

Bit odd that she didn't give you a date in the future when she's not busy. Just leave her to it now.

I would just do a 'that's a shame. Well I'd love to catch up if can at another time'.

What blackcat says.

I have a friend who delivers her schedule on the wings of a social butterfly with a tinkly little laughi in a ‘oh look how fun packed my life is’ kinda way whilst I have frequent dates with Netflix and gin 😂😂 I’m jealous of course but also relieved at times!

She did say something about maybe January but I don’t know ... just seemed a bit rude? Probably overreacting

Who has any free socialising time before January? Nov and Dec are always crazy with parties and events.

Me

I know someone a bit like this. Fine when you bump into them socially but when you try to plan something, they're never free.
I sent her a text three weeks ago asking if she and her DS wanted to come along to something local which is on next weekend. Didn't get a response so I just chased it up. Her reply "Sorry we're busy then."
It's a shame as her DS and my DD get on well, but obviously our schedules just aren't compatible.

Me too Turquoise

She probably just wanted to let you know she is still interested in meeting up but doesn't know when atm. Just making contact really so you don't forget her.

Reply saying just as well, and give a long list of fictional extremely glamorous events that you are booked up for for every weekend till June.

I used to have a friend who did this and it was super irrritating, even though it seems like a minor thing. I recall trying to arrange a date for her to visit us and she had booked in a coffee with a neighbour at the local costa 4 months in advance. Ridiculous and a weird way to live

I've had a very similar conversation with a friend who said the same thing and said it won't be until the new year. I totally understand, life is crazy this time of year. Certainly not something to be annoyed about. Plan something for January or February. It will be here in no time.

Maybe she’s listed every weekend and said that she’s busy because you mean a lot to her and she doesn’t want you to think she’s just fobbing you off? That’s what I get from that anyway