From friendship to romance

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Hello! I posted on relationships board bu was not replied to so I thought that I might try here. Im not sure if a close friendship is turning into a romantic thing and I dont want to be a fool and misread situations and occurences. Am I being unreasonable to think that if a friendship is becoming more intense, with more physical and text contact, confiding more and complimenting more...that there could be romantic attraction. Id love to hear why from people who have crossed this bridge and how they knew,basically. i dont want to make a fool out of myself or ruin the friendship if im way off the mark.

Do you want it to turn into something romantic?

Maybe..not sure..timing all wrong .thanks for response

If the timing is wrong keep things how are are for the time being but ask yourself if the timing will ever be right!

Life is too short.. if you want your relationship to be something else ask how he feels and if he feels the same then work it out. If you have a good friendship the worst that will happen is that he does only see you as a friend and you carry on that way and you know where you stand.

My husband and I met at university 14 years ago (good god I feel old). We were BEST friends and nothing more for 9 years when he suddenly blurted our that he'd been feeling a lot more than that for a while. I was cross at first (?!) but figured I'd give it a whirl.

Now lying in bed with our baby next to me. It was the best decision ever because, even when you're having a rough time, they're still your best mate that you want to have a laugh with!

Why is the timing wrong?

If you want it go for it.... don’t let them be the one that got away. In never let the friend I loved in. Really regret it. Fir some reason I just didn’t believe he felt the same (he obviously did). I’m now married to another great guy who I love dearly but do sometimes wonder what could have been.... worth finding out

It is possible of course but it’s alnost impossible to say as we don’t have all the info. In my experience though if both parties want it, then it’s hard to suppress and something will inevitably happen.

But first you neee to figure out your feelings and if you want anything to happen.

Thank you all for sharing your experiences. They are so lovely to hear but of course living with regret that I didn’t make a move is something that I don’t want to happen. I would just be afraid if I was honest and he felt upset and didn’t feel the same . We live on different parts of the country despite travelling to work and have family commitments with our parents / businesses etc . As crazy as it sounds, he is the person I see myself most going into old age with . I would hate to lose the closeness of friendship if I revealed my true feelings . I need to try to read his behaviour towards me a bit more but I don’t even know what to look for ???! . I also posted on relationships yesterday as i wasn’t get many responses at that time so thank you for taking the time to respond and share your experiences and advice . Mumsnet is a gift .

Ahh OP this sounds like how my husband felt. If it helps we lived on different continents for the first two years of our relationship (he confessed just as I was moving!) and if anything it makes you stronger!