Flouncers

[Doyoumind]

There are many flouncers in my family. AIBU to think this is not reasonable adult behaviour? It has caused a lot of problems including no/reduced contact and in what respect could it ever be the right thing to do?

Having been brought up around it, in my young adulthood I also did it before realising how pathetic it is. It's so engrained in me I still have the urge to occasionally but the rational part of my brain stops me.

Is this normal or is it just my family? AIBU to expect more from them?

As in they flounce out of a room after an argument?

It’s a bit like people who give you “the silent treatment” I just assume they have very poor interpersonal skills.

Both types of people usually want you to chase them and persuade them to be nice to you again, by grovelling to them.

I don’t choose to give them what they want.

You mean walking away from an argument? It seems like more should learn.

It depends.

Is it walking away from an argument that's not going anywhere, to end the conflict and calm down? [fine]
Or is it stomping out the room expecting to be followed and consoled, possibly followed by hours/days/weeks "not talking to X" [not fine]

Sorry. I went offline.

I mean they leave the building, rather than the room. They cancel plans that have been made and that impacts on other people. This is big time flouncing. It's not walking away from an argument. It's a spiteful 'fuck you'.

Walking away from an argument I can understand. But

Sorry. Pressed post too soon.

But I'm am not one to chase after and play along with the game when that's what they're looking for.

It sounds more like sulking to me. Maybe I'm just being pedantic but I think of flouncing as up and leaving the room. Anyway, it's not nice or productive. It is passive aggressive in that it may seem a passive move but it's an indirect expression of aggression. It is better to talk things through and explain issues rather than try to manipulate in this way. So if someone is doing it frequently it's not great - although we're all allowed the occasional huff IMO.

I think you just have to try not to rise to it