DH declined new brake pads on my car! .

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My car is in for a service. Garage has my number as it’s my car but rings DH to ask if they can change the break pads as they are 70 per cent worn. I drive 500 miles a week. He says no, leave them for a couple of months. Service member mentions the car is booked back in for January when they ring me to say it’s ready to collect.
Any how, I have authorised the garage to replace my brake pads today. I will then pick up my car and pay for them from my own bank account. Clever me.
AIBU to feel very annoyed on a number of levels with DH and garage. Twats the pair of them.

YABU- it's well known that garages do this to add/upsell on services. I would have checked them myself once home, you might have found they were only 50% worn, and fine to drive for a good while yet. Even at 70% worn they don't need changing immediately. Have you asked your DH why he declined?

With regards to them ringing him. YANBU. And I wouldn't ever take it back there and tell them why.

Are you a mechanic?

www.cars.com/articles/how-can-i-tell-if-i-need-new-brakes-1420680335862/

At what percent should brake pads be replaced?

Manufacturers have different recommendations for when brake pads should be replaced, but as a guideline, some shops recommend new ones when only20 percentof the original thickness remains. Others say it's necessary when the pad is down to 3/32 of an inch.11 Jan 2018

How did they have your DH's number if you gave them yours?

I think you're missing the point, fruit it's op's choice wants her brake pads replaced, they don't need to 'check' with her dh.

Whenever a new garage asks me to change my brake pads I agree but ask for the old ones to take home with me.

Oddly enough I’ve had several of them change their tune at that point...

But you are right, it’s your car they should have called you.

I would never use them again for asking my husband the important clever man questions. Twats.

You shouldn’t have replaced them without checking yourself, 70 (even if they were telling the truth) is fine

I think you're being a bit silly spending the money unnecessarily rather than anything else. I can understand you being annoyed at the garage phoning your DH instead of you (for that YADNBU) but if they are only 70% worn then you really don't need them replaced - how long is it since they were done? I'd guess a year at least; if they've worn 70% in that time then you're more than safe for another couple of months and I'd have accepted that!

70% worn would last you way past January, there’s probably somewhere between 7,500-12,000 miles left on them, dependent on how you personally drive. Your dh was right.

Erm what have your brake pads got to do with your DH?

You've been conned trust me. Garage's will find ANYTHING even slightly wrong with your car and say it needs changed. A big garage recently told me while doing a free recall part on my car that it also needs the clutch fixed, the cam belt changed and numerous other stuff adding to almost £3000. The cam belt had been changed a month previously and the clutch is absolutely perfect.

Your brakes are probably fine. Your husband was just trying to save you money.

Anyway, I wouldn't necessarily give the go-ahead for work that might not be needed just yet because I was annoyed that DH had made a decision on my behalf (we view both our cars as joint expenses anyway so trust either of us to make a decision, although I usually ask DP anyway as he knows a lot more about cars than I do and can do some of the stuff himself anyway).

If the garage had called him purposefully instead of you then I'd be annoyed, but if they have his number then they might just have both numbers on the system and have called the first one? My DP usually gives them both numbers and it just depends which one they call (and who answers). Sometimes I drop the car off and he picks it up, sometimes vice versa.

Why would you have them replaced at 70%? To prove a point?

He might have been "right" but it's her decision to make not his

He might have been "right" but it's her decision to make not his

Why waste the money to prove a point?

Don't you trust your husband's decisions? Do you think he is a tight-arse?
If it's booked in for Jan 19, then your husband was correct in thinking that you might as well wait till then.

Thanks for your replies. Fair enough maybe I got a bit huffy ( inwardly only ofcourse) but the car has already done 58 thousand miles in less than 2 years and the pads have never been changed. I have a massive commute in the dark all on rural routes, I use my breaks a lot. I can afford this today. Come the end January I will have covered another 4000 miles just about and may still be feeling the post xmas pinch.
Also, I’m not sure the garage will have taken into account the miles I will have covered in the next 2 months.

And the service gets paid out of the joint account? But op pays for the extra brake pads out of her own?

Sod that. But then, unlike 90% of mn, it would seem, we only have one joint account, so this wouldn't apply to us.

My husband could be called a tight arse over money that’s not spent on anything that brings pleasure. Otherwise a he is quite a genourous soul to be fair.

Your car. Your decision.
I'd be annoyed that they rang DH instead of you when it was you who took the car in for the service.

I've had a car serviced with 'brake pads worn - suggest replacement' on the invoice when I declined. Took it to the same garage a year later - without having had them changed - and there was no comment on them, so I asked if they were ok, and was told they had "plenty of meat" left.

I don't go to that garage anymore.

My DH works for an autoparts/bike shop which has a garage attached. I drop MY car off. I pay with MY money and yet they call him.

Last time I dropped it off, they got a polite but firm reminder it's my car so unless he's paying the bill they'd better call me.

YANBU

Not on the same wavelength as most of the other posters at all.

1. Your car and you doing the driving and loads of it = your decision
2. I would rather have Dec/Jan when the weather is bad with new brake pads than wait till the better weather to replace them (since everyone seems to agree they need done then)

My garage is perfectly capable of having a normal conversation with me as a woman re should / must on such matters and happily provides supporting evidence and talks me through the pros and cons. If yours doesn't you should look elsewhere.

Your DH was correct. Going by your usage your brake pads were still good for at least 10k more miles. You clearly do not “use your breaks a lot” (sic) if you’ve managed 58k miles. Heavy road usage would have required replacement in under 10k miles. Braking performance doesn’t tend to degrade through the life of a pad and would have been just as capable of providing maximum retardation (ie enough to trigger ABS) at 95% worn. You were done up like a kipper. Bet they charged you WAY over the odds as well.

Yanbu to be miffed they didn’t call you.

But yabu to be angry with your dh for not agreeing to work that doesn’t need doing yet!