Background info. In laws are pleasant enough people, we get on fairly well but see very little of each other. DP always had a slightly fraught relationship with them from the age of about 15 until we got together then it seemed to settle. He has 1 sister who is married and gets on better with her parents than DP does.
We have been together 23 years and have dcs but we arent married. Dps bil is treated like a son gets a lot spent on him for his birthday etc, I have never had a card. So fast forward to this week and DP was rushed into hospital. I have obviously been backward and forward doing all the usual stuff one does in these situations and keeping everyone informed. So when speaking to in laws earlier about latest developments they said 'thank you for all you are doing for mr sweeney its very kind of you'.
It made me feel like they dont actually think of me as a proper part of the family. I wasnt being kind I was just doing what a normal partner does in these circumstances. Am I sleep deprived and taking offence where none was intended