AIBU to ask who looks after the vomiting child?

[Cuppaand2biscuits]

Child 1 has vomited at school this afternoon and been sent home. My day off today so no problem.
I've rang work to tell them I won't be in Thursday or Friday because of 48 hour clear of sickness rule. DP is working away and can not return and I can't ask anyone else and risk them catching it.
Work was unimpressed and suggested I ask a friend whose children have already had the bug!
Who looks after your children? Would you ever call on grandparents?

When DH is here then I take the first (worst) day and then we alternate.
If he’s away there is only me. If DD was okay-ish she might be able to go to the childminders (not for sickness bug though).
We don’t have anyone to ask.
I fell out with a manager once who didn’t understand why I needed the day off whilst DD was vomiting everywhere as I should just ‘ring round some nurseries’.
Surprisingly he had no children.

Me! Work would have to lump it. The truth of the matter is my husband being in work is more important then me, what I will miss is less likely to cause problems. I wouldn't hesitate and I know if our circumstances were reversed (which they have been) he wouldn't hesitate to be off so I could work.

I wouldn't ask anyone else to look after my poorly child, however if they were feeling better and a grandparent offered I would go back to work but would have anyone else if they were still ill.

I am fortunate, my parents or in-laws would happily look after them.

If my son has a bug or catchable illness then I'd look after him. So it didn't pass to everyone else which would be unfair & also because the kid probably wants their parents as comfort. Your work will just have to lump it. When you've got a dependant at home, these things happen.

*wouldn't have

It’s impossible isn’t it. Don’t feel bad, stay at home with your child. We don’t have anyone either. I’ve been asked by a manager to write a list of people related to my child and the. Discuss why they couldbt care for him.

Whoever is in the best situation work-wise and can get the time more easily. If work had said to me what yours did, I would’ve laughed in their face.

You can't ask friends to look after a vomiting child, what a ridiculous suggestion! If DH is away, it's me. If not, we split it. My parents live in Ireland (we're in London) and DH's are older and frankly I wouldn't ask it of them. And they live 2 hours away anyway.

Me! My job is home based. DH is away a lot. In a previous life, he did take his share, when I was the one travelling.

I have asked my in laws to look after one kid when well for e.g. an inset day. But that's different.

I look after them but I'm a sahm so no problem. DH works full time & can't leave the site without someone else able to take over responsibility.

No way would I ask my parents to look after anyone with a sickness bug.

It’s funny isn’t it because if you stay off work to look after your sick child, you’re a disgrace to the workforce however, if you stay off work, you’re asked on your return who looked after your child and didn’t they need their Mummy? Or at least that’s my experience of it. DH on the other hand never received as much shit

When my husband is away it's down to me, when he's here we share although he does more as I cover when he's away

I worked from home and DH has been able to work from home (only because his boss is away) otherwise I could possibly have worked from home again. Or taken unpaid leave 😭

when DH is in UK he works from home as his job allows him to do this. When he is not in the UK I take time off work. We don't ask grandparents because they all have health issues

It depends who is in the best position workers (usually DH unless working away) granparents I’ll and live many miles away. All friends work. It’s bloody impossible.

I should just ‘ring round some nurseries’.

Sorry, this made me laugh out loud! Just ring one of those nurseries that wants a one off vomiting child (!).

Some people really have no clue.

During the actual vomiting phase it was always me as my work is more flexible and dc always wanted me when sick (they are older now so this my no longer apply). In the basically but waiting it out til they can go back to school phase dh or my mum would take over.

I think a general expectation that time off to deal with sick children is shared bw parents is a good thing, even if it's not always possible.

Whichever of DH and I can most be spared. We will try to work from home and/or make up time another day if possible though.

I would say ok il call about and ask. I wouldn't actually do it and ring back work the next day saying I'm so sorry I've asked everyone, no one can do it. I wouldnt ask anyone to have my kids with a sick bug, normal colds etc i would ask grandparents. Or offer to make the time up or take it out of holiday if you have any left.

Usually me but my work allow up to 5 days special leave for situations such as this so I wouldn't get shit off them, plus I can (and do) work from home quite regularly so I would be doing what I could as poorly child allowed and so wouldn't be totally out of the loop. I think it's terrible that your work reacted the way they did, you can't outsource care of a vomiting child!

I think it's the 48 hours rule that has made me look like I'm pushing my luck. If the other parents had stuck to that rule then maybe my child might not have got the bug.
I would never ask anyone else to care for a vomiting child.

We are lucky. I work 7 to 2. DH works 3 til midnight. So they are always home with one us

It would be me. DH is often away with work and typically only home fri eve to Sunday.

If he’s off work though and child is ill he takes full charge.

When both of us worked, whoever could rearrange that day most easily.
Now, me, because I quit my job.

We called my mother in when DS2 had chicken pox. 3 weeks later DS1 joyfully came down the stairs with chicken pox expecting a week with Gran. She was on holiday, and he was most miffed he got me and DH!