To be pissed off about wrapping paper?

[Papewrath]

DS, my pfb and the most disliked of the grandchildren. To the extent that last time they came to visit he asked why they were bothering because they always ignore him when he talks to them.

Birthday, grandparents have sent an unwrapped gift and one wrapped in Christmas paper because all their other paper was either too babyish or obviously girly. All other grandchildren are girls. Is it really so hard to get suitable, or even just plain, wrapping paper?

I know in the grand scheme of things it's not very important but AIBU to let it annoy me?

YANBU.

As an isolated incident it probably wouldn't be such a big deal but it sounds like the top of the iceberg.

Your poor DS

How old is he?

YANBU. They sound horrible. Is the present appropriate at least?

Wrapping paper isn't that important but that doesn't mean the overall meaning isn't important, that sounds a major issue actually and I feel sorry for your poor DS. What a message - he's not important. compared to his cousins. Why are you still in contact when they ignore him?

The fact that your DS thinks they shouldn't bother says a lot about it.

Poor boy. My grandparents were like this. We weren't as good as my cousins and I just stopped bothering in the end.

They were never going to change. My grandmother would happily fly to New Zealand to see them but apparently driving an hour to see us was too much for her.

The wrapping paper wouldn't bother me that much but the fact your Ds is aware that they don't interact with him would do.

Have you spoken to them about this?

One year my df hid a bag behind the sofa as he left, said was the dc Christmas presents.
After he left I moved it to my bedroom from peeping eyes! 3 unwrapped selection boxes. Gave df time to get home then rang him - to remind him I had 4 dc.
Apparently he didn't think the 11 month old would eat chocolate!
Tight git!!

I think it's all about the context of the relationship. My DM would often used leftover Christmas wrapping paper on my birthday (February ) but we had an overall decent relationship.

It sounds like they really can't be bothered and he is picking up on it.

He's 9 on Friday, but a learning delay of about 2 years.

Don't know if wrapped present is appropriate, other one isn't really. They give him what they think he should be interested in/able to do rather than what he is interested in or can do. It'll sit at the back of the cupboard for a while!