To not maintain contact with EX's family?

[AngelOfMusic4]

Me and Ex split 7 years ago, we have 2 DC together and have made our own contact arrangements (EOW) which we are both happy with.

His family have always been overbearing and they were horrendous when we were together, I have been civil and considerate but I received a text from my EX's DM saying that she wants to see the DC on the weekends that EX doesn't see them.

I told her that we make the most of the weekends we get to spend together and I would rather her not contact me about seeing them and to speak to EX about seeing the DC when it's his weekends.

AIBU? I don't want to be getting the DC ready in the morning and then have to wait in for them to be dropped home, I want to enjoy the weekend we have together.

She wants to see them every weekend.

You only get to see them every other weekend.

She wants to have more weekend time with them than you get. Nope.

As you have described these people as overbearing and horrendous, I think you sent the perfect reply. Truthful and short.

I suspect they didn't ask politely either?

Enjoy your weekends with your children. Let your ex sort his family out. Surely that's one of upsides to splitting up?

YANBU- it's up to your ex to sort out when his family see your DC.

She's a CF.

Maybe they'd like to see their other grandmother on your weekends?

She wants to have more weekend time with them than you get. Nope.

This.

Utterly bizarre that she ever thought she was entitled to that. Ignore her!

She can do one.
For starters she shouldnt even be asking you, she should be arranging stuff with her son for when kids are with him.

One simple text;

No, you can arrange this with EXP for days the children are with him. Thanks.

Then choose to block/ignore and dont engage in future.

She's being a controlling bitch. I would assume that she's used to people giving her her own way.

Tell her that the answer is absolutely, objectively, unequivocally no. It's not up for discussion or debate. She has to play by your rules.