Snogging a family member.

[JustAskiing]

If your H (not mine) had a drunken snog and a bit of a grope with a female family member, and you forgave him, would you forgive her too?

If she's that foul about the cousin's wife, she clearly hasn't actually moved past it sufficiently for her marriage to work in the long run. All that simmering resentment and rage she's feeling towards them both and is currently just projecting on to the woman is going to boil over in a big way at some point.

From my own personal perspective, I would find that even worse than some drunken snog with a random person in a club. Both would seriously make me question my relationship, but keeping it in the family like is somehow even worse and makes it inescapable

She shouldn’t HAVE to forgive either. She has CHOSEN to forgive her husband

Seems awfully melodramatic to talk about divorce over nothing more than a drunken snog.

Since this is anonymous, I'll admit that I once apparently snogged a friend while insanely drunk. I have no recollection of this and was absolutely mortified to find out about it. I've never got drunk since and to his credit, DH only brought it up once and has never mentioned it again.

It is one of the things I am most ashamed of and I'm grateful he forgave me but honestly it if it had been the other way around I couldn't imagine ending my marriage over it.

I should add that I had and still have no attraction for the guy and find it really weird that I'd do that! Drunk me shall never be allowed out again.

I wouldn't forgive either of them, or forget.

Well her husband is the one who had a responsibility to her and has been unfaithful to her and probably she feels has humiliated her.

The woman has no responsibility to her really. I would blame my husband if this happened, logically, but in reality would also hate the other party.

I guess if she has decided to forgive her husband, she wants to forget about it and any mention or sight of the woman will bring it all back.

Drunk people dance on tables; tell inappropriate fart jokes; fall over the blossoming buddlea in the garden. They don't snog the face off someone at a party.
Not a freaking chance.