AIBU to be away from my DS for this long?

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My DS is 2 and me and my husband haven't had time to ourselves for a long time, ever since he was born actually and beyond! He currently goes to a childminder who is wonderful and he gets on very well with her. She is registered to do overnight care so my husband and I was thinking about asking if she can have him for two nights on top of having him during the day so we can go away for a couple of nights. I feel so guilty for even thinking about it but it is so impossible to take him with us as he always plays up and then ruins the because he will not settle or behave himself. It's not his fault at all, I understand it isn't but I'm sure everyone just needs time away for a while! I've never, ever been away from him since the day he was born! This will be my first time. I have no family who can take him either as they're all busy/don't talk to them.

Why do you feel guilty? Time together so important. You'll get loads of "my child is 47 and I've never spent a moment away from them" etc but honestly the parents that make no time for each other away from their kids every once in a while are the ones that drift apart and split up. Book a nice hotel with a naice spa, good restaurant and have a lovely couple of nights away. Reconnect and come back fresher and happier to your child who will have enjoyed their sleep over!

Oh good grief you shouldn't feel guilty! Doooo ittttt

Most children would have soent a night or two with Grandparwnts/grown up uncle and aunties by the time their two. Theres nothing to feel guilty about. I kmow your talkimg about payimg a cjildminder but its not like its a stranger actually is it. Some children would be going on over night access to their non resident parent by 2. Honestly despite the fact you will get people say i never left my child, its not unusual or a bad thing that parents do.

Yes i throughly believe what Edith is saying about its the parents that stop making time for each other and themselves that end up in unhappy relatiomships/spliting. You are absoluteky right everyone needs time away. Enjoy reconnect taje some peace time to be each others partner not just mummy and daddy.

Do it. It's great that you have someone you trust to leave him with. He will be fine.

Go!

Go for it! But another (cheaper) option is what we recently did, DH and I took a week off work and left our DS in childcare for three days, so we did grown up day trips but had him in the evenings (and weren’t paying for a hotel)

We went away for 5 days and left our 2 year old with a GP. No regrets, he was a bit grumpy with us but it did us the world of good and he was fine a few days later.

Doing it again next year (assuming Brexit doesn't fudge it for us)

Nope, absolutely reasonable. You’re not leaving him for weeks on end, you’re leaving him somewhere familiar and comfortable for a tiny bit of couple time and rest. Good for you and for him too if his parents are less frazzled. Perfect! Enjoy yourself guilt-free. Mine are 13,10 & 6 and I’ve left them perhaps twice a year on average each time for a 2-3 nights break with DH since they were around 1 year old. They are none the worse for it!!