Dh being a nobber

[Dilligaf81]

Last night DH tells me someone called his personal number asking for diligaf from workplace. He replied that he was the dh and to call her at work and ends the call.
I asked why he couldn't have given them my number but apparently he hasn't memorised the number I've had for 15 years.
I've obviously written his number down in error and rather than be helpful hes gone down the route that AIBU to think he should give my number or get any details.

To add to the annoyance we don't have an office number, all staff have individual emails and mobile numbers so not sure how they would manage to get me if I've given them the wrong number.

So mumnestters AIBU to think he could have given them my number or taken there's to pass to me. He is adament I am.

We are now not talking because apparently IABU plus I said he acted like a twat. (I do swear a lot so calling him that is the same an an idiot for other iyswim)

You couldn't remember your own number. 😱

Seriously, you gave the wrong number out and some stranger called your DP.

It could have been anybody.

Why is your DP going to give your number to a potential nutter?

Yes I made a mistake and gave his number. I don't generally give any number to 'nutters' so if I've given them a number it's safe to say I'm ok with them calling me.
As I wrote if he thought that he could get their number for me to call them.

The only people that call my phone and ask to speak to DH are cold callers. I don't wish to spend any more time on them than is necessary so I will certainly not be giving out his number, nor will I be hunting for paper and pen so I can write down theirs.

I would assume if it was someone that DH genuinely wanted to speak to he would have given them some of his own contact details/had some of theirs.

I'm with your DH.

You should be accepting the fault for this yourself rather than blaming your DH and swearing at him. So what if he hasn’t memorised your number? You clearly haven’t either.

He could have taken a message. He didn't.

Unless this was a call to confirm the availability of a donor organ or something of similar gravity I'm not sure how this has led to such a huge row and not being on speaking terms.

You gave the wrong number to someone but expected your DH to remember the right number off the top of his head?

If someone rang my number asking for MrFuchs there is no way I would give out his number.

I wouldn't give out DH's number to anyone, unless he'd specifically asked me to. I also wouldn't take kindly to being sworn at for the above.

He is right its was his personal mobile number and he had no idea who they were (even if they said how would he know). He should not be giving out yours

His mobile would have the number (unless it was withheld it which case he was definitely right) so just call it back

It was your mistake and you overreacted (and using your language acted like a bit of a twat)

If someone called me asking for Lord Von Beaverhausen I'd be well suspish and would not be dishing out his number. I would have taken the individual's name and number and passed it on, but then I did temp as a PA in my student days so it's in my nature to do so...

I think that knowing it might have been a business call, he should at the very least taken their name and number and passed it to you to call them back. That's not an unreasonable ask IMO.

It was a business call and the nature of my job means the gravity of the call could be huge (as he well knows).

I made a mistake which I apologised for but to not even take a name seems to be very strange to me.

It would have been helpful for him to ask to take a message and a number for you to call back on. Isnt that what a 'normal' person would do? My DH wouldnt have a clue what my number is but he also wouldnt be so unhelpful. Could you go through his call record and retrieve the number?

YABU. If you go off on him for something so minor then god help him when a real problem comes up.

It was a business call and the nature of my job means the gravity of the call could be huge (as he well knows).

Better make sure you give them the right number then, OP.

I’m with your DH, I wouldn’t have given out MrCrispy’s no in this situation. Can’t you just call your workplace & ask if anyone was trying to contact you? Maybe an all-user email could be sent out?

I think you owe your DH an apology.

I would have done the same as your husband in his shoes.

He was being unhelpful IMO, he could have taken a message or something.

Is he normally like this and it's all blown up?

I am honestly taken aback by how many of you wouldn't have taken a message or at the minimum asked who was calling. Fine don't give out numbers but to not even ask who was calling?

Yes I made a mistake by giving out his number, a mistake which I apologised for but my response in calling him a name was the way he responded to be asking who called. Like it was the most unreasonable question.

It wouldn't be anyone linked to the company itself as we all have the numbers programmed into our phones so no idea who it is.

cheshirechat sadly yes. He is never wrong, has never apologised for anything and if I call him out on something he will give me the silent treatment for ages. He has very little empathy and always looks at how it affects him. It's infuriating.

cococharlie83 people have arguments about all sorts and we have had many 'real' problems over the 2 decades we've been together, we work through them. This was somthing little and annoying that I thought a but of common sense would have sorted.

You couldn't remember your own number.

Neither would I off the top of my head. I would nt have a bleedin clue.
I know I might lead a sheltered life but I don't phone myself up, that often

If I had the time I would ask for the name of the caller and his/her telephone number and offer to pass on a message. I would certainly not give him your number. If I was busy I would probably just say sorry, you've got the wrong number.

YABU to be so angry with your DH.

He was a twat, you’re not wrong. The very least he could have done was take their name and number. Idiot 🙄

Can you not get it from his call record?

She didn’t say SHE couldn’t remember her own number, she said HE couldn’t remember it. She just accidentally gave his not hers, we all do things on autopilot sometimes.

Is the number not on his phone? If the number is 'unknown' caller than don't bother calling them back.
If it's that important would you not call them back. I would NEVER give out my DHs number on the phone, I would ask the person who's calling for their number and get him to ring them back.
YAB completely U.
Why the hell would you give out you DHs number? Unless you both work together in the same company or something.

I woiodn't take a message because the only people that call DH on my phone are cold callers who've clearly obtained my number via some marketing list and done some cross matching to determine his name. Or if people ask for Mr X sometimes it's because they've decided I'm male as my first name is unisex ie they dont know me.

The only way a person DH would actually want to talk would ring me thinking it was DH would be if he'd done what op did and given the wrong number. But I'd assume he wouldn't do that and disregard.