to be disturbed by this

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My DS has started a new school (year 1) this September as we moved houses and I've become friends with another mother in the playground. Weekend just gone she invited me over to her house for a brew and a chat as we realised we lived just a few minutes apart. During the time sat in the dining room I'd hear her husband conversing with their teenage daughter, but he was casually swearing to her. Not angry swearing but like, "it was on fucking telly the other day". The teenager is 17 (I know this because the mother mentioned her doing psychology and her A levels).

Maybe she's old enough to hear it but it seemed so casual and she also has 3 younger children and a baby who were in the room and also seemed so blase about it. Clearly the kids will pick up that language and her DS is also in my DSs class and say he drops the F bomb and my DS repeats it?

Not kidding. He swore in every sentence. Do a lot of people do this?? With young kids?

It would be absolutely normal for anyone of my dcs (24,21 and 17) or DH to swear in everyday conversation.. 'Fuck me, the traffic was a nightmare this evening ' .. 'Bollocks ! Just remembered I've got a sodding essay to hand in for Tuesday .. or perhaps 'Piss,fuck bollocks !' (A particular favourite for DS. When he can't find something.
All very well mannered in public - would NEVER use that language around Granny 🤭 for example.

They know when it's ok and definitely not appropriate. The privacy of their own home - we don't Police their (or our) language.

children in the same room as he swore every time he spoke

My brain read "children in the same fucking room". I have been known to use that word (ahem) once or twice. Not great in front of young children, but all families are different

I must say I'm surprised at most of the responses on this thread. I'm with the OP on this one. Maybe it was because I was brought up in a household where we didn't swear. Personally I hate to hear the 'F' word used so extensively that it's considered normal everyday language. I find on a lot of social media posts (particularly FB community threads) that the 'C' word is becoming normal too. Maybe it's a generational thing, who knows. BTW, I'm not ancient, just early 50s!

Wouldn’t bother me because a year 1 child is old enough to be told not to repeat it. I’d probably swerve visiting them if I had a toddler that was likely to be effing and jeffing after. If their own ping kids copy them that’s their problem.

*young kids

disturbed 😂

For fucks sake, disturbed!!!!! I swear I’m fromt of my two DD’s (7&9) and always have done. They are capable of understanding that swearing is fine at home but there are certain scenarios where you absolutely wouldn’t swear (school/work for example).

They have both only ever used swear words occasionally and at home. They are both capable if understanding when it’s appropriate. Maybe you should trust your children to realise when it’s appropriate.

You'd have had conniptions growing up in my house op. I'm from a huge military family on one side and Irish on the other. Every other word from adults were swear words but never in an aggressive way, just normal conversation.

I was taught not to copy everything adults say and didn't swear as a child. I swear in front of, but never at, my dcs but they've been taught not to swear just like I was.

I swear alot in normal conversation, sorry :p You were disturbed by ith though? for fucks sake lol (pardon my french)

My friend swear round his 6 yo, and thinks it's hilarious when she says "pass the fucking remote" or "bollocks, I dropped the spoon" or whatever.

I just ask she doesn't swear around me,

DH casually swears in front of and in conversation with DSS (9). I've also heard his ex do it. I don't like it, and never swore in front of mine (now adult) at that age. DH has had a very different upbringing to me, and has completely different ideas on many aspects of parenting!! Fortunately we don't have any DCs together or I think we'd be divorced by now!! I've never heard DSS swear, although I don't know what goes on at school!

I never ever heard my mother swear. My dad only ever swore once in my hearing, and that was when someone crashed into our car.

Times have changed, haven't they?

Me and my 5 siblings are known for our potty mouths, we were raised by men in a very male dominated working class environment....but that doesn't mean we are bad people. None of my children have ever repeated what I have said despite hearing the occasional string of shit/fuck/bastard/twat. You can feel free to judge as your opinion is totally irrelevant to us .....and has not impeded our education or careers ( thankfully I have managed to never drop the f bomb in school environment!).

It's just how some people are.
I know a family who have a 10 year old daughter and they speak about anything in front of her. There are no boundaries.
I was most shocked when I was sat there one night (during the Charity Dingle trial on Emmerdale) and her dad came into the room and said "what have I missed?" To which the daughter came out with "He's going to get done for raping her". I just felt slightly shocked that a child would so casually say something like that. She knows far too much for her age and because of this acts like she's 15 not 10. She listens to rap music in the car with her mum, knows all the words to explicit songs, she says "shit" when she drops something and not an eyelid is batted.
Some families are just different and that's their way.
I compare her to my cousins little girl of the same age and the difference between them is incredible.

Studies have apparently shown that people who habitually swear tend to be more intelligent. I'm fucking sure it's true.

Studies have apparently shown that people who habitually swear tend to be more intelligent. I'm fucking sure it's true.

I'd bet my fucking life it is :p

I wouldn't be disturbed, but my child wouldn't be going there for playdates.

If you swear all the time, what do you use when you're properly miffed? surely peppering your everyday language with swear words is like wearing your ball-gown for the school run.

I have a vast and satisfying swear vocabulary, but it's far more cathartic to save them for when they're really needed.

Should be renamed Busybodynet ...

Some people do use swearwords as punctuation. Personally I rarely use them so that they have a strong impact when they are used.

If they upset you by using them, I suggest you tell them to fuck the fuck off

I have a tendency to swear, but I also believe that if a child is brought up knowing what they are and not to say them it is better than hiding it from them and then learning it when older, because it is then a novelty. My parents never swore in front of me, I discovered swearing when I was 11 and started listening to Eminem, I thought it was such a new and fantastic thing, I also thought it was very funny, big and clever, by the time I learned otherwise it was a full part of my vocabulary and would say it without even realising.

I don't swear just in general conversation but will do if someone pisses me off or I stub my toe or the dog nicks food when I'm not looking of my plate. Then there's lots of swears 🤬🤬

I swear a lot, a lot of times, it is only after I say it that I realise I said it. My parents swear, particularly my father but never abusive. My parents are farmers (relevant). My kids are allowed to use bad words but only if they understand it and use it in context.. so the cow "shit" in the yard. My kids thought it was fun at first, now they use pooped.... go figure.

Swearing in our household has increased massively as DS has grown older. With toddler / primary age child I tried my hardest not to swear but have relaxed an awful lot as he's been into his teens. He's now 17 and I'd use the same language as I would with any adult although I wouldn't swear AT him so I'll be 'FFS' but not 'you effing idiot ' .

Although the worst swearing is from DS music which I think is a bit OTT and will say so- nobody needs to swear that much!