There are eight adults in the family including 2 parents, 3 grown up children and their 3 partners. We live quite far apart. We used to all buy a xmas prez for everyone.
Now we are all older and various kids have come along so for the last few years we have bought for the kids, but done secret santa for the adults, at £25 each. We also give each other suggestions and hints of things we might want for our secret santa, which is co-ordinated by someone different each year, and we exchange when we meet up before xmas. This is super easy and stress-free - one present with some hints given. No more trailing around the shops or hours on amazon thinking what I give my weird BIL. Give something that is wanted, receive something you are likely to like, a little treat you probably wouldn't buy for yourself, no waste or disappointment. I think it works brilliantly.
However one of the in-laws has said he doesn't think its right, doesn't want to do it (but will do if that is what we all agree). He thinks we should get more into the joy of xmas and either do a total surprise secret santa gift or buy everyone an individual gift. One other person has agreed with him but the rest want to continue. Trouble is we are not very imaginative and when people have gone off plan before it has not worked out well (ie people have not liked their gifts).
I am organising it this year, so if 6 want to continue but 1 or 2 don't AIBU to think majority wins? And we just carry on and they suck it up? Trouble is at xmas I will know that two people don't really have their heart in it.
Am I being a miserable cow (I am) or just practical? I don't want to do no gifts, that would be even more miserable. WWYD now?