To smile back?

[sosmooth]

So I was walking with my DC towards the town centre to meet my husband.
There was a man at the door putting his coat on, he kind of looked up and did a double take then smiled at me, I initially thought it was someone we knew but realised it wasn't. As I went to walk in through the doors he was looking and smiling at me,I smiled back and carried on walking in. It was a quick half smile and I looked away. i was talking to DC at the time. My husband was stood a bit further in the entrance and looked livid, o asked him what was wrong and he said he'd talk later,he calmed down and we went home.
So later came and then he said I was a flirt and he can't believe that I would smile back at a random man! He's mad at me because I smiled back at a stranger and apparantly that means I love the attention or that I'm 'up for it.
I think he's being a complete prick but he says any husband would have reacted how he did and he would never smile back at anyone he didn't know!
AIBU or is he?

Your husband is being a complete prick. This is very controlling behaviour

Your husband is controlling and jealous
How do you live with this?

For what it's worth he is the most talkative man I've ever met and although he couldn't flirt to save his life,he will talk to anyone and everyone. He talks to complete strangers all the time. I've never been worried about it because it's just who he is.
Now I'm thinking if it was the other way around he'd be accusing me of flirting or overdoing it.
He says that's not true and it was the fact that the guy obviously liked me and me smiling back was a sign that I liked him too?!

He's not very controlling though, we each go out alone and he's never asked me not to do anything or go anywhere. It's just that he thinks every guy looking my way or smiling means they like me(I'm average looking and dress very average,nothing special going on here).
He's adamant that I like attention,i don't! I'm very shy and would rather blend into the background.

My dh used to be like this a long time ago. I put up with it when I was younger but he's better now, he wouldn't act like that, if he did I'd make sure he knew never to do it again. He sounds insecure.

And to answer you aibu, no you were nbu to smile back!

Oh FFS,smiling and interacting with unknown people is just part of how we manage wider society,,,he needs to get over it.

YANBU.

sosmooth smiling back is a reflex for most people - it was daylight, with your DC, within sight of your DH (or "D" H). He was illogical beyond belief. Does he not smile at all the strangers he talks to? Next time he chats to 86 year old Maud half way around Tesco pretend to be insanely jealous and see whether he sees what a hypocrite he is...

Massive overreaction. I smile at everyone anyway out of habit and I have no desire to flirt with anyone or cheat on DH!

Blimey! I go out walking with our dog and am usually the first to smile and say good morning/afternoon/evening to everyone in my area! Regardless of whether they are male/female or I know them or not. It's polite and kind. Certainly not flirting! I would be more than happy for DH to act in exactly the same way. It's not like you winked at the fella now is it?! YANBU.

XH once said I smiled at a male friend the way I smile at him. I smile at everyone the same.

yes he said it was different to a normal smile and that the stranger would think I was thinking the same as he was thinking?
He said it's a man thing and apparantly all guys know that if a woman smiles at you like that then she obviously likes you.

Couldn't be doing with that. He sounds immature and paranoid.