Or is my DP??

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Getting ready for a night out last night (without him), and he tells me I must be going on the "pull" because I never make that much effort for him anymore.
Bare in mind it's freezing and I'm not a youngster anymore so I was off out in jeans and a long sleeve top.

Hadn't even started getting ready when he said this, I was just ironing my clothes.

It made me feel a bit shitty about myself and his opinion of me. But as I explained to him, we don't go anywhere! He hates going out anywhere so all we do together is in the house, and I'm not gonna iron clothes to sit in the house!

When I got home, he said "your body isn't as nice as it used to be, you used to have a great bum"

He's never put me down before this and used to make me feel a million dollars, so I am wondering if I'm being sensitive or if my nice DP has had a massive personality transplant!!!?

He thinks I'm turning nothing into something, and I think it's time to call it a day!!!

I think he's an arse. Are there any good bits to your relationship?

He sounds like a prick.

He sounds like a total twat. Dump and move on.

Actually he sounds like a prick who may be having an affair - it's not uncommon to accuse a partner of being on the pull, when they in fact are the ones playing away. And the comment about your bum sounds like it's either said to "keep you in your place" or possibly to gaslight you into something.

Next time you walk out his door, don't come back. What an arse.

The only time I’ve been accused of being out on the pull was by a bf who’d just done exactly that.

In what way could you possibly be the unreasonable one in this scenario?

He’s simultaneously calling you a tart on the pull but also too ropey for him to consider. What a catch he is.

To be honest, no there aren't any good bits anymore. How the bloody hell does this happen!?

We share a house but it's in my name so I'm ok!

When I got home, he said "your body isn't as nice as it used to be, you used to have a great bum"

Is he negging you when he says this? Pulling you down so you feel so ugly and lose all of your confidence so that you feel lucky to have him because no-one else would have you?

I think, if you're not happy in your relationship and you're bored of staying in all the time but he won't do anything to address it and instead chooses to pull you down, that ending it would be the best thing to do.

No good bits and now he's being a dick. Yes, get rid. Any big reasons you haven't done it already?

That's such an awful thing to say!!! The part before could just be him joking but the after is plain rude. I'd put him in like tell him to never talk to you like that again, or call it a day if you ain't happy

He sounds like a prick.

I concur.

I wouldn't DREAM of saying anything like that to my DP.

What a prick. I'm sure it's not true and you look lovely.

Yep. Get rid.

A lot of men seem to be under the misapprehension that women only put effort into their appearance to attract men. Very strange. Not sure why they think we give a shit.

He's pissed because you pointed out that he doesn't want to go out and he's feeling guilty because he knows it's true. He's trying to spread his misery by saying crap things about you. He probably doesn't think them but as you've made the effort to go out he's attacking your appearance.
He's unreasonable and a twat but unlikely to be cheating on you & you don't need to LTB. You could however be frosty until he apologises or refuse to shag him.

Wtf what a prize cunt. Although don’t sound heartbroken at the thought of ending it which tells you all you need to know.

This is a slippery slope.
He seems to be slowly trying to lower your confidence to stop you from going out.
I am not an expert but I would say that is borderline emotional abuse.

He's insecure and jealous and thinks by putting you down it lower your self esteem.

What kind of husband does that? One that needs flicking out of the house that's what.

Totally agree!! And the thing is, it's got to a point where I'm so excited to go out and get "dressed up" i certainly do it for myself and to feel nice!!! Why don't men get that?

Me putting make up on to go to work in my all female office must be incase I get pulled over my a male police man.

I am not an expert but I would say that is borderline emotional abuse.
You're right, you're not an expert because it sounds much more like someone lashing out verbally when they know they're in the wrong. Emotional abuse? I'm sure people who have genuinely been emotionally abused are chuffed to learn that a childish strop is being compared with their experiences.
What kind of husband does that? One that needs flicking out of the house that's what.
Or you could try having a conversation like an adult instead of throwing your toys out of the pram in the same way that OP's DH does.