I’ve NC for advice.
Me and DH have been having relationship problems for about 4 years. We’re no longer intimate at all and I honestly don’t think I love him anymore. We actually rarely argue it’s more the lack of interest and things in common that bothers me the most. We have 2DC 6&4 who we both adore and he is a great dad. We’ve just had a petty argument over the house being untidy but it escalated very quickly as he doesn’t talk pleasantly when we argue. He becomes condescending and just very unpleasant so I said I’d had enough and wanted to separate.
Sounds dramatic but every time something like this happens I remember I’m genuinely not happy and just plodding along. He then chirps up that he’ll kill himself. He’s said this a few times when I’ve said I’ve had enough and want to separate. Trouble is that he has no signs of depression that I’ve noticed and 3.5 years ago I was ill with PND and spent a night in resus following an overdose which was intended to end my life. I’ve flipped and told him how insensitive it is to say that knowing what I’ve been through and that he doesn’t mean it and he stormed off. I’ve come downstairs and he’s now busy cleaning but I know he won’t apologise and will act like nothings happened soon enough.
We both love our boys but I don’t know what to do now. I earn significantly less than him and we struggle financially as it is despite both earning decent wages. Please help me.