Is this funny or just plain rude?

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DH and I were chatting about doing our Xmas stockings for each other, and he said something along the lines of maybe he should do his just to avoid it being shit

Joking apparently, but I just think that's rude?! Considering I've spent and fortune over the years and always been generous with him

I've always been appreciative of everything he's given me even if it's not quite right, and it felt he was having a dig which he then denied

Maybe I should just fill it with coal

most of us just smile politely while inwardly thinking WTF.

Haha so true!

I never actually knew that adults get stockings and the amount of stuff you mentioned OP! I'm surprised.
I'd just stick money in a card for him then he can buy himself what he wants.He sounds a bit nasty to me.

I’d say “great! One less thing for me to do then!”

Yes what sort of stocking fillers do other people get? As it's only meant to be little stuff...

What does he want in his stocking if not practical items, but also not books or his favourite treats ? He sounds like a dick to buy for. Could you call a stocking amnesty and not bother this year? If it’s going to waste, because he’s ungrateful, that’s a real shame.

This is why dh and I don't swap gifts.

If he needs socks he or I will buy some. I'm very happy for him to choose what he likes. It is all one pot of money here and we generally buy what we want little treats wise.

I don’t do a stocking for dh. We don’t actually buy each other anything much. Maybe a voucher for an experience type thing. Vineyard tours, trip to museum etc.

Even when we did buy each other things, we never did stockings.

It depends on the context. If my husband said that to me it would definitely be a joke because we banter like that. But if you’re not sure then I would say it’s probably not appropriate.

Your gifts sound fine to me. I've never heard of adults getting stockings, though. Stockings stop once the kids reach 18! It's bound to get tricky coming up with good ideas.

This is what I hate about MN sometimes. A list is grabby, but giving things you know a person likes isn’t ‘personal enough’. WTF should you do?

I think he’s being a brat too tbh. I think you should ask him what he actually wants in his stocking because you’ve been buying him what you think he wants or needs and clearly this isn’t right. If he wants to produce a list then fine, but it’s unfair to not just say that and instead dress up a shitty comment as a joke.

Oh please. For 8 years my DH would mention at least a couple of times a year what a shame it was he no longer had access to a real chess set as he used his parents when he lived at home and never got round to buying one after he moved away from home. We had a board, as we had a tavli board in wood, that could double as a chess board. Cue me buying him a lovely chess set that matched the board and cue him being like "Why did you get me this?". Oh well at least he stopped talking about what a shame it was he didn't have a chess set.

I'm doing an adult stocking this year,we are staying with my mum siddhant her will get stockings.She is80 and you are never too old.
Both will have a Datsuns,a sugar Mose and chocolate coins in the toe.Nice bubble bath,a,couple of party poppers.A poetry book for my mum ,anime dvd for dd.Then silly things to make or play with.
We don't go over board on maun presents.
When exhaust was around we mainly bough joint presents.He likedtorecieve practical presents and the variety of things I got improved drastically when dd was 4.My first present from him was a dustbin as I had mentioned I needed one!

Is it normal for adults to give each other Xmas stockings?

Just tell him you have been thinking over what he said and you agree with him and have decided that stockings for each other should stop and also just agree a maximum amount to spend on yourselves so you can buy something you really want for christmas. You can still wrap those big presents and put them under tree so you each have something to unwrap and maybe a couple of small surprise presents of chocs or booze. See what he says to that.

Exhaust is a good name for an ex 😂. Autocorrect win!

That was for seventhgonickname

I’ve tried stockings for adult men in the past and it didn’t work at all. Like you OP I put a variety of gifts in there...socks, a small jar of special Christmas chutney, chocolates, a Lottery scratchcard, a DVD, a book, nice shower gel (not an everyday brand), sweets etc. While not totally unappreciative, I don’t think it met with any joy either! Have since learned that men don’t appreciate socks as gifts in the way I do.

Shame because I would love a Christmas stocking containing all of those items.

It’s spelled “Mx”, but it’s pronounced “Throat-wobbler-mangrove”

Or should that be updated to “Throat-wobble-nonbinarygrove”?

Sorry wrong thread!

Well, there's filling Xmas stockings and then there's .... filling Xmas stockings . Try the latter and I think you might have more success.

Get him one of those big plastic cocks, that would be a change and give him something to talk about.

Books ? It must be quite a wide stocking...

Only me that used a pillow case as a child? Easier to fit stuff in!

I put little luxuries in my dh's small present pile, high end chocolate or his favourite booze chocolate liqueurs, expensive sauces/relishes that he wouldn't buy for himself.

A coat is a practical item that isn't a great present, Imo. I'd buy one because I like it, not because it was Christmas.

i got a door key with his fav footie team on and had it cut to fit the front door. that was a big hit. A big choc coin from Bettys. Walnut Whips. Body Spray. A mens Face Pack, Nail Clippers Car Air Freshener.
A miniature of a good whiskey.

My dp always wants socks. I think his feet eat them or something.

I do a similar sounding stocking and put things in I know he'll like. It's not thoughtless at all.

What kind of things does he put in your stocking?