To feel guilty about using a dummy?

[Sunnydays19]

My DS is 3 months old and solely breastfed. I feel awful for using a dummy on occasions when he is unsettled.
If I don't use it, he is looking for something to suckle on. I offer the breast but he becomes fussy (has a suck and then unlatches) I'm guessing this is because he is not hungry. I'm worried he will wean himself from me if I use the dummy too much. Am I over thinking and being silly to think this..? Just need some reassurance.

My DC were breastfed only. However I introduced a dummy as it was constant! I felt terrible at the time as I had always said no way were mine having one!

Shouldn't have worried as they both decided they didn't want them by 5 months old and had outgrown wanting milk 24/7.

Go with what feels right. Ignore your plans pre baby and go with your gut!

You're not being silly op it's hard knowing what's right for your little one- to be honest I find something new to worry about every day! X

My little boy wouldn’t take one for almost 6 months. He couldn’t self soothe at all it was so sad to see him struggle to settle in my arms. I have brought about 20 and finally yesterday a cheapo 59p one from the local chemist is working! I have one dummy loving baby today and I couldn’t be happier!!!

I would have been over the moon if mine had taken dummies.

I don't think you should feel guilty at all about using a dummy but a bit concerned about how the evidence on dummy use and SIDS is being presented, if you look at the NHS they say dummy use may be protective but not all experts agree. www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/reducing-risk-cot-death/

I think the 95% reduction statistic is not correct (what is the source?) And the person who is worrying that their baby won't take a dummy is worrying unnecessarily

Dummies reduce SIDS by up to 95%. I'd feel guilty NOT using one

Neither of mine would take one however hard I tried, so should I feel guilty?

SoyDora no. Mine won't take one either. I am trying, though! Sorry, I worded it insensitively.

It was 90% not 95%.

"A new study has found that use of a pacifier during sleep reduced the chances of a baby suffering from sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) by 90 percent."

www.scientificamerican.com/article/pacifier-greatly-reduces/

Have you got a link to the actual article 3ChangingForNow? Would be interesting to see what the methodology and findings (in terms of raw data) of this study were.

Thanks everyone. I Was probably more concerned it would cause nipple confusion. I bottle fed my 1st child and she point blank refused a dummy. I guess it's all new to me this breastfeeding.. and I don't think I've seen many breastfed babies with dummies. He has the perfect weight gain too.. going from 7lb1oz born to 15lb at 13 weeks (which is his age now). So he's a chunk and definitely is not missing any feeds!

Neither of mine would take one however hard I tried, so should I feel guilty?

I think guilt should be reserved for heinous crimes and nasty spiteful behaviour rather than simple parenting/ child choices. It would save a lot of angst