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To be annoyed with DH for discussing things I have asked him not to,.

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Radley · 20/06/2007 17:26

I'm quite open in many areas of my life, and in other areas very private. Our finances being one of them

We had a few money worries earlier, but due to over time and me now working, that will be sorted next week, however, I have come home to discover dh has borrowed money off his sister and best mate, 'JUST IN CASE'

He KNOWS how I feel about him discussing money issues and does this.

He now is sat wondering why I'm pissed off with him

OP posts:

kimi · 20/06/2007 17:31

I think you have every right to be upset.
What is just in case????
If it was not something that had to be paid before you got paid then it seems silly to borrow just in case.


ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 20/06/2007 17:39

I don't think you're reasonable to be annoyed with him discussing his finances - after all, they're his as well, and where privacy might be what you feel comfortable with, he might need to discuss his worries with others to be able to cope - but I do think you're perfectly reasonable with him for doing it behind your back and for borrowing money without discussing it with you.

It's an absolute no-no imo. You can't make unilateral decisions about finances in a partnership.


ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 20/06/2007 17:40

sorry there should be a to be annoyed with him somewhere in there!


Sixofone · 20/06/2007 17:41

Need a bit more info really to decide properly, but I get the impression from what you are saying that he honestly thought he was helping...if you've been working overtime, maybe he thought he'd try to take some of the pressure off you?

He obviously doesn't feel a stigma about admitting money is tight and I think that is a good thing - too many people carry the stress when if only they were open there would be people who could help. You obviously have a very supportive network of family and friends.

I think you are being a tad unreasonable. If you think you can do without the money, go easy on your hubby, and hand the money back graciously to whoever you borrowed it from with sincere thanks, as one day you may need to call in the favour again!

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