To stick with potty training

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Only day 1 of potty training DS who is 3, spent lots of time on potty but not had a wee there yet just had lots of accidents. We haven't been home all day, part of the day was spent at my parents house. Planning on spending the next few days at home to try and get DS to click with potty training.

Trouble is he's not the least bit interested and really has no idea when he wants to wee e.g. getting him ready for bed tonight, sat him on the toilet, he said he'd finished, no wee. Brushing his teeth straight after and he wees all over the floor, obv don't tell him off just clean the wee and him up.

DH wants us to stop and try again another time, I think we should at least see how he goes tomorrow and Monday at home then re-assess if he's not showing any interest.

AIBU?

It will take awhile, usually a few weeks after you cracked it, done DC get fed up and regress. I fell for this on DC1 she wanted to poop in s nappy only. It took an extra year for poop. With DC2 I said all the nappies were gone so there was no going back.

That's fab Ladycurd we had a couple of accidents but he's also done a poo on the potty.

Fingers crossed for us both tomorrow!

We did it with bribery. 1 jelly tot for a wee in the potty, 3 for a poo. Made him very keen to give it a try.

Have a Look at the "Oh crap" Book.
It's brilliant, well it's common sense really but my Son cracked it super fast!

Goodluck with it, it's hard, but he'll eventually start picking it up, stick to it OP!

So first full day at nursery on Monday 8-6 had 6wees on the potty and 4accidents including a poo. Yesterday (3rd day of potty training) however NO ACCIDENTS at all. Well she did half a poo on the potty before bed and the other half came 20mins later in her nappy but I’m not counting that as an accident as no clean up for me! So I’m counting that as an overall win. She is doing incredibly well. So sticking two fingers up at all the “three is far too old to train types”. I think going with your child is key and the majority get there by 4. Train to early and it’s weeks of accidents. This has been easiest potty training yet (apart from the traumatic hysterical first day tantrums of wanting her nappy back!) Although I anticipate there will still be accidents.. How is your LO doing?

Great that you making progress. Sorry you sound so aggressive. It must have been stressful. I think you misunderstood - of course it’s possible to train at 3, or even 4. I just don’t understand why folk don’t potty train when kids are younger. Pooing and weeing in a nappy seems odd when a child can walk, talk, climb, feed themselves and even dress themselves. Maybe it’s to do with kids being in nursery? Maybe this is a pattern they support? I am honestly interested. Anyway, we all only do what we think is best for our children.

Andctrainibg early for me didn’t mean weeks of accidents. 2-3 days sorted most of it, done in 1 week.

And just too clarify. I actually don’t think that training around 24 months is early. Pretty on cue with their development. Kids have been trained by 2 for centuries and still are all over the world.

worsethingshappen I think it’s to do with disposable nappies being much more absorbent and comfortable compared to the terry towelling ones that were used years ago.
Our nursery start the process at 3, and it works well. Every generation does things differently.

Nippey - thanks. I suppose the comfort now offered in nappies changes things a lot. But I wonder if perhaps nurseries are a big part of it too. Since we now rely on them, as a population, for so much child care. I wonder if “early” training is facilitated by any nurseries?
I just think that it’s a shame for the kids and the environment. We don’t need to be adding so much extra to our landfills. I wish it wasn’t seen as a competitive issue but rather something to consider and challenge the status quo.

Worsethingshappen I also started potty training before 2 with my children and happy that I did. All done by 2 and 1/4, including at night. Each to their own. There are different types of struggles whenever you do it. Neither of mine were "ready" but I personally feel that if we have taught them to pee/poo in a nappy we have to teach them how to use the loo instead. What annoys me is when people on here say that training early gives problems later on. In real life my friends who trained children late are the ones who seem to have more problems in this area. I expect multiple accidents in the first week. My reasons for training early also had a lot to do with landfill guilt. I think like everything there will be pluses and minuses at both age ranges, but we should all respect what we all choose to do. I hope the training is going well.

If you are paying a nursery to look after your child as I did then they need to work with you as best they can. I was working full time when my first was training and I did take holiday to start the training off. I think a week and a half. For me it was worth it.

Nippey, I made a thread about 6 months ago asking what age cloth nappy users potty trained at, it actually wasn't any sooner than standard nappy users, the only difference seemed to be perhaps that the mothers were more willing to try to stop with all the washing rather than the child magically deciding they are done with nappies. I do think it has a lot to do with the parent and technique (no pants, positive attitude and a bit of perseverance) and I also agree with PP, just because a child is trained younger, doesn't mean they have weeks of accidents at all.
However I'm very pleased to see the OP persevered and had success.

Does your little boy know when he wants to 'go'? I know for me that was when I realised it was time for potty rather than nappies, we discussed it and he was happy to use the pot, it only took a few days. If a child is still oblivious of needing to void, it's more difficult.

I found out by accident that it really helps them become aware of their need to void if they are naked from waist down for a day or two. Harder in the winter! Apparently there is now a book out about that method of training too.

Now he's done it in the potty it should click. If he has an accident let him know that's not ok and he needs to go to the potty but font tell him it's is ok he just had an accident.