Sharing baby duties

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Husband work full time, often more than 5 days a week.
I'm on mat leave and we have three young kids - 5, 3 and 8 months.
DH helps in the evening when he gets in from work by doing baths and reading books. I've been doing pretty much every night duty so DH isn't woken up. AIBU to think this should stop as I start back at work soon 3 days a week.
Should we share nights? If so what would be a fair split? We will need something with set 'rules' or will just end up arguing over whose turn it is.

I think the first thing I'd be concentrating on is getting them sleeping through the night. How many times per night are you getting woken up?

The fair way to split specifically the nights would be to share the nights when you both have to get up for work in the morning. This is what DP and I did.

Exception to this may be if one of you has a manual job/long driving commute and the other works 5 minutes down the road in a sedentary job etc.

Share on the nights you both have to be in work and whoever isn't at work the next day does those nights.

@TidyDancer we both have long commutes driving. DH has a manual job so I worry for his safety using the equipment. I am a teacher.

The older two sleep through every night. The baby varies, some nights sleeps through some wakes a couple times. Baby's been poorly this week so I've been running on only a few hours a night

I also have an 8 month old but started back to work in September... I'm a teacher dh is a classroom assistant..
I do breastfeed at night although ds does take formula when I'm at work... I do all the nights.. Every single one. And ds can be up alot, on a good night he is up once or twice.. Last night was every hour or two.
But on the one or two occasions dh has offered to try and do the night wake up ds has screamed the house down he will now only settle with me at night. During the day he is fine with anyone.
If you can get your dh and ds to take turns I absolutely think that is only fair...

My little one is only 6 months but I’m worried about this. At the moment I get up, my OH will sometimes make up a bottle (using a prep machine) then go back to sleep. While I change her nappy, feed her, and rock her back to sleep, it’s really hit and miss whether she sleeps through, and on a normal night if she goes down at 7pm she will wake at 11pm and then again between 2am-4am. She usually gets up between 5am-7am. My oh will get up with her at 5am if it’s been a particularly hard night to give me an hour before I have to get up.

I am on maternity leave, looking to go back around April, we both have pretty mentally hard jobs and we both commute.

My OH is looking to do one day at the weekend from now with the night feeds in order to get him used to putting her down because at the moment I’m better at it, but when I’m back at work we are gonna share the night feeds, but we are hoping she will be sleeping through by then.