To have phoned an ambulance

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My auntie had survey a week ago. I went to check in on her this morning, I found her in a pool of blood, in pain and barely conscious. I phoned the team she was under and the dr (who said to phone an ambulance) but now I'm hearing grief from neighbours saying it was a waste of time.
Did I do the wrong thing? Aibu?

What's it got to do with the neighbours??

You did he right thing and it's none of their business

I don't think so. Hope she's ok.

Fuck the neighbours. What the hell do they know and why is it their business? She sounded seriously unwell and her own doctor advised an ambulance. To be honest I am baffled you are even questioning this

Of course not! well done you.

Of course you did the right thing. Why on earth do the neighbours think they know better? Sounds like you are a kind and caring niece who took immediate action and could well have stopped her from becoming worse, don’t doubt yourself!

This sounds like a bit of a no brainer really if she was bleeding and barely conscious. Who is going to judge you for that. I assume you meant to write surgery? If she had an oozy bandage and was well enough, I would maybe have taken her to an out of hours doctor but in a pool of blood and barely conscious!!

What did the paramedics say/ do? It's their opinion that matters, not the neighbours.

I do have anxiety and I question everything I did profusely thank them for coming, if I had anyway of getting her to hospital I would have tried but she wasn't even able to get up (they had to take a chair in the house and she was helped up by 3 people)
Just hear so many stories of ambulances being wasted and hate to think I was one of them

Yes surgery, should have checked that!
They checked where the bleeding was coming from, checked her temp and took her to hospital, Where she was admitted straight into a ward. She wasn't to have anything else to eat so I presume she's being put to sleep for something

In future, don't share details of your auntie's health with nosey neighbours. Of course you did the right thing phoning the ambulance, don't think any more about it.

I hope your auntie will be ok.

Ah, I remember. Have you accessed any help for yourself yet OP?

If the paramedics took her to hospital then it was definitely the right thing to do.

Of course ywnbu. Neighbours are being U.

Nothing to do with the neighbours. You did the right thing.

Nothing to do with the neighbours, ignore them, you don't have to tell them anything, hope she recovers soon and you are ok too. Don't discuss it with them if you see them nosing around trying to get info from you.

A relative of mine is an EMD and says you were right to call an ambulance. In fact she said you should have called an ambulance before you rang anyone else. She also said they get calls about less dramatic situations and even they are not considered a waste of time!

What nasty neighbours. Well done for looking after your aunt - it's as good job she had you and not them to look out for her!

The neighbours are complete and total fuckwits. Anyone who thinks that someone who has had surgery and is found on the floor in a pool of blood, and can only get into a chair with the help of three people, does not need an ambulance is an idiot and dangerous with it.

OP - you did the right thing, 100%.

You did the right thing without question.

Can’t see why the neighbours were questioning it. The fact that she was barely conscious was a reason alone, let alone the blood and pain.

Ignore your neighbours.
I've had ambulances at my house several times this year, all have led to admissions and I couldn't give a fuck what my neighbours think.

You needed the help to get her off the floor and had no transport of your own to use.

She’s been admitted.

Of course you were correct to call an ambulance. The neighbours need to STFU.

Hope you Auntie recovers soon (and that systems can be put in place that will make her less vulnerable in future - personal assistance alarm etc).

I didn't tell them about what had happened but they seen the ambulance and put two and two together (my auntie had previously said she was having the surgery) they didn't have any idea what it was for or about! He could have collapsed for all they were aware!
I'm hoping to get in and see her tonight, I'm the only family she has around and the guilt is eating away at me for not getting there sooner. Thanks for confirming with me though MN

Don't feel guilty, you have helped her and she is in the right place. The neighbours are just nasty and thoughtless, if they ask what happened either ignore them or just say she's back in hospital. What did they think was a waste of time, the ambulance being called? Or her going back to hospital?If they didn't know what happened then they shouldn't make any comment at all.

Her neighbours are stupid.

You did the right thing OP, the paramedics wouldn't have taken her to hospital unless she absolutely needed to go there.

Hope she recovers swiftly

You definitely did the right thing, barely conscious and bleeding requires an ambulance, especially post surgery.

If you suffer from anxiety have you sought help/ put strategies in place to take care of your mental health? I know something like this happening could be a massive trigger for me.

Barely conscious and bleeding = needs an ambulance. You 100% did the right thing.