Would you find this hard?

[WinnieWill]

Please help - struggling with a work situ and not sure if I'm just being pathetic. It has really been affecting me - for context, it's a finance/audit-type grad scheme and I am 2 years in.

1. Only female in all-male team
2. Brand new team, all colleagues I have never worked with before
3. Slight language/cultural barrier between me and my direct manager
4. Work I have never done before - it's not hard per se, but it is time consuming, requires thought and is poorly explained to me.

It's probably no coincidence that I don't feel like I'm performing as well as I could be in light of all of the above. I don't really like the day-to-day work I do anyway, and am seriously considering changing jobs.

Does anyone have any advice to help me get through it? I stupidly confided in a (male) colleague at my level that I found my direct manager's mgmt style hard to deal with, and he has mentioned it to a few external people, stating that I am having difficult adapting to our overseas colleagues' ways! I find the general lack of support quite overwhelming and while I get on socially with the team, the all maleness makes it quite hard to properly bond - we do spend a lot of social time together and get on fine (e.g. go out for beers, meals) but I don't play sports games with them etc, which I think has been good for their bonding!!

Can I ask more about what you feel the difficulty is with the culture/language barrier with the manager if your colleagues are not experiencing the same? Why have you referred to the manager as overseas if it is your direct manager?

The manager is an overseas colleague who I am working for directly (if that makes sense) - its a cross-border project, comprising of a UK team and an overseas team, and we are working together.

My male colleague who I referred to in my first post told me he felt the same, and no longer works for him. I do not know how the overseas juniors feel, but have an idea that he is like this with everyone. I do really resent the fact that said colleague is going round telling people I am finding it difficult when he acknowledged the same to me before!

@WinnieWill I think you've had a NC fail - you might want to ask MNHQ to amend your second post.

Oh no, thanks for alerting me - it's fine though