About the unbearable smell from my lodgers room

[icedqueen]

Lodger has been here for about 6 months and in that time the stench from his room has got worse and worse.

It's a difficult smell to explain but I expect a combination of not cleaning, not washing his sheets, never opening a window or the blinds and also leaving laundry to dry in his room. He also eats in his room and leaves plates there.

I've bought air fresheners, asked him to open the bathroom window, closed the door and cleaned his room when he isn't here but I cannot get rid of the smell.

He also STINKS when he uses the bathroom. He went out last night and will be spending all day festering in bed, alternating between stinking out the bathroom with disgusting hangover stomach and sweating in bed. I have a nicely kept and decorated house and usually spend my Saturday doing chores but feels like there is no point due to the hideous smell hanging around.

What can I do please?! Is there any salvaging this or am I being OTT?

Wipe the door frame to his room with Zoflora.

Give a months notice.

How have you put up with this for so long? Vile vile vile. Give notice.

Give him a written warning that he needs to improve or x, y and z or just give him notice.
If it was me I’d be just giving notice.
Next time set some written rules (eg no food in the bedrooms and you are expected to clean your room at least every 2? weeks etc). It’s still your home OP.

It sounds like she'd prefer him to eat in his room, rather than the common areas if he's as bad as he sounds. I don't think there is any salvaging this 'relationship' and it needs to end. Unless it's your teenage son you are talking about!

Give a months notice give him a weeks notice or tell him to leave now

Do you have a contract?

Did you set out your rules at the beginning, i.e no eating in room and no leaving laundry to dry in his room? If not then I think you've made a rod for your own back.

Tell him he has to leave as you're having the room fumigated and it will be uninhabitable due to toxic fumes for two weeks.

Additionally tell him he won't be coming back and that he will be liable for the cost of the deep clean.

Then look for a new lodger.

What can you do? Ask him to leave of course!

Dear God get him out ASAP.

Just walk up to him and say Dear Mr Stinky Poo, I am giving you notice to quit my house in one week as I cannot stand the stench emanating from you and your room anymore. Please make sure you pack all your smelliness and take it with you. HTH

Get rid! I'm surprised you've tolerated his filthy habits so long.

And buy some extra strength rubber gloves etc to tackle the horror when he goes

(And DON'T listen to any sob stories "Where will I go/ I have no-one to take me in/ I'll be living in shop doorways" or similar crap - he's had his chance - you don't need this.)

Give him notice to move out.
It's not your job to parent an adult.

OP has he gone yet?

Get him out. That’s horrible in your home. You will find someone nice and clean.

I actually know the smell you speak of. A horrible sour smell. My much older brother was a regular drinker and had much the same habits. It's been 30 years since we lived in the same home and if I think about it, I can almost smell it now...unfortunately.

Tell him to leave. He will not change. You'll probably have to get a new mattress.