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To consider taking 3yo to see Bohemian Rhapsody?

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sparklewater · 17/11/2018 11:04

More of a WIBU really. She's great at the cinema so it's not that, and I'm guessing all the sex and drug references will go over her head and she'll just enjoy the singing.

I really want to see it and haven't got any childcare!

Opinions from people who have seen it very welcome.

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CharltonLido73 · 17/11/2018 12:19

If you really want to see it, organise a babysitter.

Lydiaatthebarre · 17/11/2018 12:20

Thing is, OP, you're probably used to your three year old chatting, shuffling around, etc etc and think she's quiet as a mouse at the cinema, whereas the people sitting around you might find her annoying and distracting.

holidaylady · 17/11/2018 12:20

And loads of shots of lovely cats in the film!

But really not a film to take a 3yo to imo

Ilikeviognier · 17/11/2018 12:26

No way. I imagine they might not let you in even. I have small kids and if I turned up to see it (minus kids) and the person next to me had brought a 3 year old with them I’d be mega annoyed. kids films are a different story of course.

Ilikeviognier · 17/11/2018 12:27

Totally get the issue though- there’s loads of stuff out right now I want to see, but I just can’t go to see it. It’s just how it goes.

JessicaPeach · 17/11/2018 12:29

I wouldn't take her either. I have a 4yo and I understand what you are saying about her beinf brilliant in the cinema. My 4yo is good at following the cues of others and knows that in the cinema you are expected to sit quietly and not talk etc. Having said that though I wouldn't take him to see something that was for me so to speak. I have taken him to see quite a few 12a films like Jurassic park, jumanji, rampage and skyscraper (he's a big fan of the rock and who can argue with that!) and he has been brilliant each time,better behaved than much older kids who were there a lot of the time. I wouldn't risk it for bohemian rhapsody though, it's expecting too much of them. He will want to see the Elton John film when that comes out as he loves him so I'll have to see it first to check if it's suitable!

MrsStrowman · 17/11/2018 12:29

It's a very interesting film with some music, it's not a musical and very much about the dialogue, relationships etc. There's swearing, a lot of smoking/drinking and other language you probably wouldn't want her to repeat, the drugs would probably go over her head. If she's anything like my DN she'll walk out repeating things she's heard. She'd be utterly bored, so would either ask a million questions to try and understand what's going on, disturbing you and other cinema goers (the topics are not really suitable for a three year old, homophobia, the rise of aids etc) , or she'd just want to leave, meaning there's no point in you paying for tickets to see a bit of a film. Get a babysitter or wait for the dvd.

JessicaPeach · 17/11/2018 12:33

Also, those that would be annoyed if a 3yr old was next to them etc, I'd hope if the op does go she's considerate of that, all the 12a films we have been to have been the first showing on a weekday morning, that sort of time. We are usually one of about 10 people in the whole room, we've never had to sit next to anyone (and I wouldn't, I'd also be really annoyed sitting next to kids if I was out child free!)

PetuliaBlavatsky · 17/11/2018 12:34

Definitely wouldn't take a 3 year old. It's over 2 hours, there's long periods without any songs at all and there's a lot of (mild) swearing, mostly shit and bollocks type. I took my 11 year old who loves queen and he found it very boring and with not as much singing as he'd thought there would be.

Nanny0gg · 17/11/2018 12:40

If she gets noisy or bored I'll take her out, of course.

It's too late then. But then you don't appear to care.

And the only reason you're backing down is because you're finally convinced the film isn't suitable for your PFB, ignoring whether or not your PFB is suitable for the film (and the audience)

gamerwidow · 17/11/2018 12:44

I don’t think the content will upset her but I think it’s just too talky and plot based for a 3 year old. It’s not a musical.

Tramadolmaybe · 17/11/2018 12:45

It’s a no from me.
Unfair on your 3yo and unfair on others there.
Either get a sutter or wait until the dvd is out.

Momo27 · 17/11/2018 12:46

The fact you refer to her enjoying the Greatest Showman shows you really don’t get it! The two films are not at all comparable. The GS is a musical, family friendly movie. BR is not a musical. It’s a biopic with music in it, but a lot of it is dialogue and frankly not at all interesting to a 3 year old who can’t possibly know or like anything about Queen other than perhaps liking hearing their music. My kids used to love a good bop along to Killer Queen etc when aged 3. They wouldn’t have been remotely interested in seeing this film at that age

ajw88 · 17/11/2018 13:02

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sparklewater · 17/11/2018 13:08

I do wish people would they. Or at least OP updates!

well That's awful! I'd have been furious

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WellGoshDarnIt · 17/11/2018 14:38

We were a bit pissed off, (I was with my mum, huge Queen fan). Unfortunately there were no staff in the auditorium, (naturally), and we were enjoying the film so much that neither of us wanted to get up and wander around trying to find someone, in case we missed any of it. So we did the British thing, (tutted inwardly and said nothing) GrinWink

Nanny0gg · 17/11/2018 14:54

I am going to take my 8 week old but he's obviously not going to be watching and I will go to a screening during the day so fewer people to annoy if he does cry for a minute before I get him on the boob.

How thoughtful... Confused

HarrietKettleWasHere · 17/11/2018 15:01

Oh well, as long as there’s LESS people to be annoyed that they’ve paid £12 to hear baby sounds while they watch it, that’s fine then ajw Hmm

Bunbunbunny · 17/11/2018 15:01

It's a long film and it would be boring for a child to sit through. If you are a hard core queen fan the inaccuracies may annoy you quite a bit as well. I just hope everyone that sees the film doesn't take it as fact. Other band members released solo albums before Freddie, he didn't know he had HIV till 1987, and they just got off tour before a few months before live aid.b

Rami is a brilliant performer to give him his due and he could only work with the script he was given.

Hmmalittlefishy · 17/11/2018 15:04

ajw88 please find a baby screening with other babies and understanding parents rather than spoiling other people's viewing even if it is in the day. It still costs ££ to go to the cinema

Op - just wait for the dvd like every other parent who can't get a babysitter and has young children.
I have missed out on so many films at the cinema because I can't get a sitter for my very well behaved dc but that doesn't mean my needs are above everyone else's and I can turn up with my dc.

PattiStanger · 17/11/2018 15:13

I'd be pretty miffed if I was having a rare child free night out and ended up sitting next to someone else's 3 year old at an film for adults.

Even if you take her out it's still disruptive for the people around you

Mosaic123 · 17/11/2018 15:13

Although adults fidget a bit, some more than others, I doubt any three year old could stay still for such a long time and focused on a film that wasn't designed for children.

If you really, really want to see it get a friend to look after both kids and you can go the cinema. Then do the same for her.

user1471426142 · 17/11/2018 15:21

I’m reluctant to see 12As in the cinema now as every time I’ve gone there have been toddlers in inappropriate films and they have been a pain in the arse. My particular low point was the parents who thought an evening showing of the hunger games was a good idea for their 3 year old. I’m sure the parents in every case have said to themselves they would take their kids out. They didn’t and managed to annoy other customers.

CharltonLido73 · 17/11/2018 15:34

I am going to take my 8 week old but he's obviously not going to be watching and I will go to a screening during the day so fewer people to annoy if he does cry for a minute before I get him on the boob.

This has got to be a wind up. No?

OftenHangry · 17/11/2018 15:49

People like ajw88 and others are the reason why I don't go to cinema anymore. And I used to love it!

Cheers, selfish parents who take kids to 7/8PM screenings of NON kids movies.

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