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To be concerned about DP and this girl?

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CiaoChaCha · 16/11/2018 20:18

DP's best mate has a daughter who is 18. His best mate is having trouble with the daughter at the moment and the daughter has gone to stay with a friend because of the trouble who lives a one bus, but almost two hour one way journey from college. DP has had this pal since childhood and knew the DD when she was a baby and when they got back in touch the DD was in her early teens.

The DD has been going through some tough issues lately as well as not getting on with her parents and so Dp has recently taken a phone call from her where they spoke on the phone for over an hour. Throughout the phone call, Dp felt the girl was insinuating she could stay with him to make the college commute much easier. When dp was telling me this, he said it would be quite a weird set up. I said it would and it would make me uncomfortable, especially since the young lady is very pretty, dp thinks she's very pretty and dp has said she has flirted with him, even quite recently, but that was in front of her dad.

I don't doubt dp would do anything but I feel really uncomfortable that dp may invite this girl to stay with him. He lives in a tiny one bed flat and the thought of them being couped up there together makes me feel really uncomfortable. Should I tell dp this before he decides to invite her? Thanks.

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gamerchick · 16/11/2018 20:20

What makes you think he's going to invite her though?

Secretsquirrel101 · 16/11/2018 20:21

That would be a very inappropriate set up, and I find it hard to believe he doesn’t recognise that himself.

TheBigFatMermaid · 16/11/2018 20:23

So you two don't live together, but you think he might invite this young woman to live with him. This is in spite of him saying it would be weird?

He has said he doesn't like the idea, so what makes you think he might change his mind?

Pebblesandfriends · 16/11/2018 20:23

Why don't you live with your DP?

Glasshalffull99 · 16/11/2018 20:24

All of this just sounds strange.
Why would he invite her anyway?

CiaoChaCha · 16/11/2018 20:25

Thanks for your replies. Dp has obviously been thinking about it because I said where would she sleep as he doesn't really have a sofa as such and he said she'd have to sleep on the floor.

Pebble, we have only been together a shortish while. Not long enough to want to move in together!

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Petalflowers · 16/11/2018 20:26

If he lives in a tiny one bed flat, then there’s simply not room, and this is whT your dp should say.

CiaoChaCha · 16/11/2018 21:24

Thanks for all your replies :)

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DanielRicciardosSmile · 16/11/2018 21:27

I don't think his response to your question if where she would sleep necessarily means he's been considering it. If he doesn't have a spare room, it seems a logical reply off-the-cuff as it were.

CiaoChaCha · 16/11/2018 21:37

Thanks Daniel. I think I'm just being over anxious about the situation.

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petbear · 16/11/2018 22:02

YANBU to be pissed off. Anyone would, even if they deny it.

What is a short-ish time? 2 weeks? 6 months? A year?

How old are you and your partner?

CiaoChaCha · 17/11/2018 08:09

Hi Petbear, thanks for your reply. We have been together six months.

I am in my mid thirties and he is his mid fourties.

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