Rings

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Been together a year.

DP wants to take me to buy a promise/ relationship ring.

AIBU to say no?
I never knew what one was - wants me to wear it on wedding finger!

Is an engagement ring not just a promise to get married?

Tell him he either proposes like an adult or he can fuck off. "Promise ring" my arse. Is he 12?

Oh that takes me back to my teenage years when everyone was getting "eternitised" 😂

What promise is he making with the ring?

Sounds very juvenile tbh.

Tell him he either proposes like an adult or he can fuck off. "Promise ring" my arse. Is he 12?

Words stolen straight from my tongue!

i really don’t get the point of promise rings?! a promise to what? for me it’d be an engagement ring or nothing! what about if people see a ring on your wedding finger and congratulate you and you have to say ‘oh, it’s actually a promise ring.’

It Defo not a wedding/engagement ring! It’s American thing! And said it was to remind me of him and it the first ring he ever given to a girl!

They are such a lot of bollocks. It's like a promise of a promise. Nonsense.

And it used to be unlucky to wear a ring on that finger if it wasn't one of the two rings.

Tell him a very expensive tennis bracelet will remind you of him better.

The only people I've ever known who wore promise rings we a couple I knew at uni both were devoutly Christian and didn't believe in sex before marriage, the rings were that promise to each other, he proposed after graduation, they married a year or so later and are still together over a decade later. Unless you are under 21ish and fall into the above type scenario it seems a cop out, wait for the engagement ring. He can buy you a nice piece of jewellery as a gift but promise rings are for teenagers at best.

DP made it clear it not marriage proposal- but it remind me of him daily! But knew I would say no! So why do it? I don’t get men?

Heck no. Is he 12? Real ring when time is ready or no ring.

Sounds like a cop out to me.

You don’t have to ‘get men’. I don’t think my DH would’ve even given it a seconds thought to buy me a promise ring

I was going to ask was he American or Canadian, this seems to be a big thing among family members over there.

Well theory is DP said promise ring go and buy it then propose and use promise ring and telling me his buying to see my reaction!

So friend said offer for him to buy bracelet with charms so every time he wishes to declare love he buys a charm instead!

Is it so other men think you're engaged?

As others have said it just comes across as very juvenile. Can he not just buy you another nice piece of jewellery? For example DP recently bought me a nice necklace as he wanted to show me he cares. Now everytime I wear it I'm reminding of him. Surely your "D"P could just buy something like that?

TBH love all im hesring from your posts is hurr durr hurr durr

Regardless of others opinions, you obviously don't want it OP so just explain whilst he may be thinking it's a sweet gesture, you don't see it as necessary, and tell him you'd prefer just to be proposed to whenever the time is right.

How old are you both, OP?

I do think it so other people know I’m taken! He can be insecure!
A friend suggested charm bracelet maybe I sway him to buy me that!
But I just feel he should know and put some thought into it and buy me something personally he thought of!

I’m 30 he is 37

Not RTFT but **

Tell him he either proposes like an adult or he can fuck off. "Promise ring" my arse. Is he 12?

sounds about right!

This is an American thing that’s creeping in over here I think. Load of bollocks.

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Oh that takes me back to my teenage years when everyone was getting "eternitised"

You’re the only person other than an ex boyfriend of mine I’ve ever heard use that expression. He was older than me and from a different part of the country to me. I wonder if you’re the same age/from the same place!

I’m from London 30, his from Essex 37 he calls it a relationship ring?