Friendship misunderstanding

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I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this or what to do ? Had meetup with mums group and was asked to contribute £20 for group gift for birthday. But a month earlier my birthday voucher was obviously £10 each contribution. Also when I had my LO there was no gifts but when other had little just before we all brought nice outfits. I also noticed I’ve often left out of invites to homes but invited to meals out I have invited to mine

these don't sound like friends!

Just be breezy and say thought it was £10 we put in for Birthday's.

Thankyou for replying. I guess I knew but needed to hear it from someone else. I really wanted to feel part of the group and I did put effort into inviting the mums group over. I have found it hard to make other friends so it was nice to be part of a group iyswim x can’t help feeling a bit sad

I second that they don’t sound like friends, but thinking about it, are you the newest member to the group and therefore they don’t know you as well

But a month earlier my birthday voucher was obviously £10 each contribution

You don’t know that really, some maybhave our in £20’and some nothing for you and this one might be the same.

If you don’t feel comfortable with £20 just put in £10.

It may also depend who is organising the collection.

If you really feel they are leaving you out then see if you can cultivate some other friendships and ease out of the group.