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Fed up and want a fresh start

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Tonicforlife · 16/11/2018 02:05

Named changed for this as it could be revealing.

I'm in my early thirties. Not long left an abusive relationship (emotional not physical). I am child free.

I have spent my 20's looking after elderly family members. I come from what can only be described as a dis-functional family (absent father, physically abusive step-father, emotionally abusive mother and passive family members who did nothing about any of this even when I had bruises and marks and they witnessed me being threatened).

I have suffered with anxiety on and off for most of my life. I am always putting others first and seem to be drawn to people who just take advantage of me. I'm having some counselling which has helped me see these issues.

A few years ago I decided to go back to university to study what most people consider a difficult subject and I somehow graduated with a first. I feel very grateful but also very lost as to what to do next. I want to travel, but I feel guilty leaving my family who depend on me a lot.

Does anyone have any thoughts? Would I be stupid and irresponsible travelling at my age and taking some time out?

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Katiej1996 · 16/11/2018 02:08

It's you're life and as you said you're family were never there for you when you were getting abused and you needed them, so why should you be there for them, live you're life for yourself, it is you're life and you decide what you get to do with it! Take some time out, you have no children or no commitments, go and live your life and find yourself and find a life that you want to live, don't stay at home and live a life for other people you will regret it!

Spiderdemon · 16/11/2018 02:34

You didn't "somehow" graduate with a First, you worked hard and overcame considerable barriers from your childhood to achieve something really brilliant. Congratulations on your grest achievement. Flowers

Spiderdemon · 16/11/2018 02:34

And yes- travel!!!

Monty27 · 16/11/2018 02:38

Get off and enjoy the world.
Well done you Smile

Ted27 · 16/11/2018 02:50

congratulations - you worked hard for your degree, enjoy your success.

This is your time, pack your rucksack and go explore the world. Don't have regrets and don't let your family hold you back

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