How do I get my reception child not to mess during carpet time?

[Elephant07]

Tips welcome
Im not there so how do I stop it going in one ear and out of the other??

Mess? Do you mean ‘mess around’ or do you mean they have a toilet accident?

I dont think you can tbh. You either just keep putting extra clothes in or put DC in pull ups until they achieve dryness. Not all kids achieve things at the same time. Your DC might not be able to do this but may be excelling in another area. Give it time and try not to worry x

The teacher is responsible for classroom behaviour..... you can only remind the child of what they should do but ultimately the teacher is in charge in the classroom

Don't understand what you mean

Why are they messing just during carpet time but not at other times? Are you in touch with the continence nurse?

If you mean ‘mess around’ I agree with PP that the teacher is ultimately in charge of the behaviour at school, and will need to punish bad behaviour as necessary. You could try a reward chart at home - if he can go all week without getting in trouble at school he gets a small treat like a chocolate bar. If he can go two weeks a slightly bigger reward and so on?

Do you mean mucking about? Or wetting/soiling themselves? I don’t think I used to have any real control over my 4 year old once she was off at school.

Do you mean mess around? What has the teacher said to you about it?

Elephant have you just had a parents evening? As a reception teacher I can tell you honestly - don’t worry about it!! They are four years old - sitting still is very hard for them and it’s a skill that’s gradually learned. For children every room becomes a playground and that’s what’s lovely about their nature. Playing games and doing puzzles at home will help build concentration - but they will get there on their own steam.

Maybe something about carpet time makes him anxious so he messes himself? Are the teachers making a fuss about cleaning it up?

Don’t you just love ambiguous posts from posters who don’t come back!

I’m pretty sure it’s about messing around. Keep reminding them every day. Yes teachers are there to manage it but parents need to help with backing teacher up and teaching their child to sit still and listen at home too.

It’s a parent asking Ink, not a teacher.

I assume OP means messing around? Honestly there's little you can do. Kids at that age are quite immediate so even offering treats at home for good behaviour is unlikely to be effective. Some kids just haven't developed the self control yet to sit still for long. It will come in time and the teacher will have to develop techniques for managing it in the mean time. (Some kids sit on a special chair, sometimes the teacher just makes sure carpet time is quick, some have a little visual egg timer so they know how much longer they have to sit etc).

If this were a teacher asking I'd be pretty worried!

as a teacher, make it short, interactive, build in movement breaks. if kids are getting restive you are going on too long.

fiddle toy, positive reinforcement. getting child to join for the last part then praise for being able to manage that bit. (backward chaining?) special seats, when you are , fred, delivering the information, fred, you keep dropping fred's name into the talk so that Fred is cued back in.

teacher should be helping child.

Ah that’s me not fully awake when answering!

It’s the teachers job to get child to do circle time. If he or she is telling parent to do it they shouldn’t be.

Perhaps ask how the teacher is solving this problem?

Unhelpful to just say “not my problem, the teacher can deal with it.” Dont parents want to help their child by reminding them to sit still for a short while, trying to help them focus on things at home, listening, taking turns and so on. Education is a partnership between Home and School.