For a variety of reasons DP only started to pursue a divorce in the summer. It will should hopefully be two years separation with consent. The two years is up but they need to sort finances. No kids, so nothing too difficult to resolve.
Basically he's avoidant when it comes to her as he feels guilty etc. etc. but for the past few months he's been getting on with it. They're trying to agree things between themselves without too much involvement from solicitors. Trouble is she's recently gone quiet on him, not responding to emails or agreeing a time to meet to finalise some stuff and for him to collect the last of his things from the house (e.g. sports gear and old photos that are in the loft).
A couple of weeks ago a huge family crisis blew up on his side (she doesn't know this) which is understandably taking all his time and emotional energy. I totally understand that is his focus and supporting him is my focus but...
...today I've started to think how the divorce could all have been sorted by now if he'd got on with it before. I told him way back (from bitter experience) that these things always take longer than you think they will and that was without this bombshell landing in the middle of it. I'm just feeling a bit sad about it all.
I also feel a bit of a cow for feeling this way because this crisis is totally out of the blue and is rightly taking precedence.