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To be in such a grump ?

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MergeDragons · 15/11/2018 18:03

I slept awfully and my bra rubbed me red raw along the band so not the best start. Anyway, I recently started a new job (not a career but a stop gap, minimum wage) and tomorrow we are supposed to dress up for Children in Need. The theme is French (don’t ask). I have a couple of problems with this:

  1. French??? As in striped jumpers onions and berets? Which is what the manager was suggesting. Somewhat lacking nuance.

  2. I don’t own anything that could be considered ‘french’. I lost weight this year and currently own 3 non work tops (usually we wear a uniform). The idea of going to Primark or wherever to spend a fiver on a top probably made by some underpaid minor somewhere to support children in need seems a bit ironic. (Plus I cant afford a fiver anyway).

  3. I work at least 75% behind the scenes and will spend at most an hour customer facing. My job is mucky and clothes are regularly ruined hence the uniform.

  4. while CIN do good work the idea of reducing giving to one day a year seems reductive. I have a direct debit with a small charity where I know what the money is spent on.

  5. the fact that we have CIN to directly support children in this country. The government should be supporting the disabled and impoverished children in this country not children.

Long story short I don’t want to do it and am not looking forward to being moaned at at work tomorrow.

Oh and apparently there is a £10 forfeit if you don’t dress up. I CANT AFFORD THE FIVER TO DRESS UP why would I have a spare tenner ???

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Streambeam · 15/11/2018 18:45

YANBU on all of these points. Make a spotty headband out of whatever white fabric you can lay your hands on to avoid the ‘fine’, and if you’re asked why you didn’t make more effort, be sure to tell them why!
Eapecially the part about it being the givernment’s job to look out for needy children in this country. It’s what we give taxes for. Grrr

Shirleyphallus · 15/11/2018 18:47

This sort of fuckery is incredibly annoying and forced fun is awful.

I’d buy a 39p baguette to be authentic and if anyone questions you use it to hit them over the head

longwayoff · 15/11/2018 19:11

Shirley has the right idea. Go baguette.

DollyWilde · 15/11/2018 19:15

Love shirleys idea!

Well done on the weight loss OP!

ScreamingValenta · 15/11/2018 19:16

I think you have a few options:

  • Do something minimally go along with it, like the baguette idea, or printing off a picture of the Eiffel tower/French flag etc. and sticking it onto your top, and pay the fiver you can't afford.
  • Do as above, but explain you can't afford the fiver but are giving £1 to be supportive.
  • Stick to your principles, don't take part and explain that, while you wish them well with the fundraising, you can only afford to give a limited amount to charity, and there are recipients you feel are more worthy.
Notatallobvious · 15/11/2018 19:20

Why would you wear a bra to bed?

ScreamingValenta · 15/11/2018 19:24

Notatallobvious For support and comfort.

Shirleyphallus · 15/11/2018 19:31

I wear soft cup sports bras to bed but they are like wearing cotton wool and angels tears as they’re so soft

MergeDragons · 15/11/2018 21:21

Lol - thanks folks for understanding. I start work at 6 so no chance to buy anything and have very limited 'stuff' (I moved here with just one suitcase) but there are Pudsey ears about the shop so I will wear some when I'm customer facing.

I think it doesn't help that I'm not a dressing up kind of person. I escaped halloween as I wasn't working. Hopefully a Santa hat will be suitably festive (I'm not wearing a Christmas jumper, I do own one but it is super hot there), goodness only knows what other nonsense there will be in the new year.

I do feel a bit bad that I keep ducking out of the team building type things - secret santa I ducked as I'd only worked there two weeks when they asked if I wanted to (plus I have a big family that I have to get for why add a randomer to simply receive a boots gift set in return?) and I will be ducking the Christmas night out as I don't like socialising in large groups and get really anxious around drunk people (when they are in the group I'm in, I get very mothering) which isn't a problem with my friends a cup of tea and a cake is as wild as we get but with this group I think it will be different.

If I have time at the weekend I might bake something for folk to share at work - it may show a bit more willing.

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