To be stressed and miserable and depressed

[onthevergeof]

I started a new job. It's miserable and I can't leave it. Kids are in childcare all day every day. Dh miserable and stressed. No help from anyone. Only friend is vodka and food so am hugely overweight and hungover a lot of the time but can't stop.

What the hell have i become

Can you at least start applying for different jobs?

It would end my career tbh. I need to have some stable results for at least two years.

Alcohol is a depressant, so drinking is clearly doing you no favors. Stop drinking right now. Not another drop. Only you are responsible for what you put in your mouth, so enough with the excuses. Since you can't leave your job, you need to fix what you can, so I suggest revamping your diet and start exercising. Being obese and hungover is making all of your problems 1000x worse. Start with improving yourself and other areas in your life will start to improve, too.

Deal with one thing at a time. My advice? Try and stop drinking.

I was like you 7 months ago. Spiralling into misery and depression and drinking to blur the edges. You don’t need me to tell you, it makes things a million times worse.

It’s hard at the beginning, but 7 months down the line I’m like a different person. I am managing life better and making changes in my life I couldn’t do when I was drinking.

Message me if you like. I do understand. It’s hard to stop but there is a lovely life to be had on the other side x

It's very easy to believe we are trapped in a spiral with nothing to grab on to get off it.

It is possible though however hard it is. Be kind to yourself and your oh, accept that being miserable is normal to all at some stage of our lives so don't beat yourself up for it. Trust yourself and when you suddenly feel a bit of inspiration grab that time to take a positive step.

Don't blame your oh and don't let him blame you. Talk and support each other and believe that you can make changes and feel happy again.