Should my friend have replied by now?

[Coffeepot72]

What is a reasonable ‘response time’ for an invitation to an event?

I have a friend – who is lovely, but is very hard to get hold of at times (she lets her phone battery run flat, and doesn’t check her emails as often as everyone else). Over the weekend, I saw an advertisement for an event I would like to go to, I thought she might like to come too? So I sent her a text and an email first thing Monday morning, asking if she’d like to go, and haven’t heard back since.

If she doesn’t want to go, then I will ask a girl from work to go with me, but I expect tickets are selling out fast, and I could really do with a “yes” or a “no” from my friend. I texted her again this morning, but still haven’t heard anything.

And I’m getting irritated. AIBU?

nah - i give people 24 hours to make a decision...ask the other girl!

Just phone her? She may have been busy and forgotten all about it.

Call her. If you need an answer dont text, call her and if she doesn't respond then just go with the girl from work.

I'd get tickets for yourself and work colleague. I'd say your friend isn't that keen on going or she'd of got back to you. I'd say it is likely she's checked her phone and/or emails once this week too.

Not everyone checks their emails/texts/messaging platforms every five minutes - if you’re that bothered about it, call her.

Yes, I suppose to could call. I tend not to ring people if it's an invitation, I don't like putting people on the spot, I'd rather have her read her messages and then accept if she wants to come. But it just annoys me that, with all the technology we have these days, I get SILENCE !!

I don’t think it’s too long but it depends when the event is.

If you need a reply by a certain date always best to state that in the first text.

But yes. Just call her.

Take the girl at work.

If friend does get in touch just tell her she is too late! You waited, she didn't reply in time.

Give her the consequence of her inaction. Don't miss out because of her!

Even if she doesn't want to go, she could just say she's busy - its the complete lack of any reply that winds me up!

My texts don't always send, or I have some not delivered.

The same thing happens with people that I know.

Just phone her and say you've got someone else you could ask, so aren't putting her on the spot.

I have a friend just like this. It's highly irritating. I doubt she hasn't seen your messages so I'd assume she's not overly keen and just take your work friend instead.

Flat battery and not checking emails sound like an excuse not to get in contact.

4 days and no response I would consider a 'no'. That's not 'sorry I've been busy' it's just fucking rude.

Invite your work pal. If the other friend gets back in touch, take 4 days to tell her it's too late.

I know someone like this - she's always "my battery's flat" or "i'm rubbish at checking my emails" or "kids ran down the batter playing candy crush and I didn't notice" or "hahaha I'm so flaky!"

Does my head in and so I just don't bother with her any more.

She sounds like she doesn't like being contacted.

Just text again and say if you want to come let me know, I’m going to ask a friend from work tonight if not.

I tend to say 'tickets will go fast, so I'm going to book mine by x o clock or x date.' so people have a deadline, as it were.

Take your work friend. 4 days is plenty of time in this day and age to wait for a reply, to be honest. Even for those who don't use their phones 'every five minutes'.

4 days and no response I would consider a 'no'. That's not 'sorry I've been busy' it's just fucking rude. 4 days to reply to an invitation that you haven't seen in inconsiderate. 4 days to reply if you check emails only once a week haven't even seen the invitation yet isn't rude.

Take your workfriend and blow the flake off.

I wouldn't want someone to call me and put me on the spot but a missed call from you might prompt her to respond to your message

Yeah don’t call, don’t chase her. Just a text saying you’ll invite someone else unless she lets you know in the next hour or so.

She’s read it and has chosen to ignore.

Maybe she doesn't want to go and feels awkward / uncomfortable saying 'no'?

I'd invite the other person without further thought to your friend, she can get her own ticket if she wishes

This is why I have WhatsApp. I can see if the message has been read or even delivered. Much better than wondering why a text message hasn't been replied to when it's actually bouncing about and not actually delivered.

Yes you and she need WhatsApp. Ring her if you want her to go. If not ask the work friend.