To think children and teens should be given some privacy?

[Prter]

How much privacy do you give your teens? Is it acceptable to go through diaries and letters and school bags and drawers?

Diaries and letters definitely not.

School bags and drawers, it would depend on the reason.

Mother of an 11yo high-schooler here so not quite teen yet but I do have full access to her iPhone. She is my kid and my responsibility. I will check on her as much as I need and want to. She knows the rules because I pay for and own the phone.

I wouldn't go through her diary if she had one unless there was a very, VERY good reason (for example, suspected abuse etc)

Diaries - no.

Phones - yes.

INternet browsing - yes.

Do not go through diaries and draws! I think it's ok to ask to go through their other personal items, but unless you have reason for suspicion then I wouldn't dream of asking.
I would be incredibly upset - at any age - to find anyone I trusted had gone through my personal belongings for 'no good reason'

Interested in the responses... my 11yr old knows I can and will check his phone. He has form for lying to get what he wants so I can’t say I totally trust him. But it does feel intrusive. School bags are pretty open though atm.

Agree with phones, but I wouldn't do it secretly, I would openly tell them 'I will be going through your phone regularly' etc.

Why do you ask? who writes letters nowadays anyway??

Are you sure you don't mean mobile phones?

Diaries no.

Phones and internet search history - yes.

Both rules should be explicitly understood by the child from the outset.

To a certain extent, in the adult world too, privacy is a privilege to be earned by good behaviour.

If I suspected that my child was stealing it taking drugs for example I would have no compunction about searching their room. something I ordinarily would never do.

I don't touch anything.
It's hers and she's allowed her privacy.

13 & 10 year old.

Do not look at phone or through drawers unless putting clothes away.

Open relationship here with phone but do not check history etc I trust my kids

15yr old ds, he has an unlimited contract but I don't check it, scared what I may find

Seriously though I'm the one who cleans his room so anything dodgy would be pretty easy to spot. He sorts his bag out every night before bed, I take his lunch box ( plastic tub ) out when he gets in to wash it. We have a very good relationship so he has nothing to hide really but I know full well he watches some porn.

As a teenager my mum read my diary and I was so upset. I loved my diaries and kept them for years. Ds isn't the writing type!

Letters? Diaries? Not this generation of kids. Technology - no privacy there. If you're embarrassed that your parent will see/read something - don't put it online

Phones, PCs yes. Diaries definetely not.
You can never be too careful with online safety because of grooming etc

Dairies, never.

The rest depends on age. Internet usage up to 13/14, then a occasional look combined with monitoring behaviour.

School bags, I'd say it depends on your child and the area that you live in.

If I had Son and lived in a high knife crime area, then is be looking in bags/drawers etc. I'd do it discreetly and ignore anything that wasn't harmful.

My eldest is 11 and I check her phone and browsing history. I wouldn’t read her diary if she had one though. She’s entitled to privacy but not when it comes to her phone.