To think the world doesn't revolve around you because you've had a child?

[ameliarre]

I don't mean this In a nasty way because I have a child myself.
There's a woman I know who is forever bashing people with quotes like "if you don't make time for my child then your not worthy in my life"
"Friends who don't take time out for my son are no friends of mine"
I just think ..people have a life too,just because you've had a child ....are people meant to just drop everything and be at your beck and call.

She must be very short of friends by now.

All this stuff starts long before they even give birth for some as many somehow start to think the whole world owes them something just because they got pregnant!

She sounds like quite the raging bore.

I bet everyone she knows has unfollowed her shit on Facebook.

I assume you a FB friends with her?

Delete her.

TBH, I find people like this were always self-absorbed and entitled, before they had kids. I just didn't notice it as much because having a kid seems to blow the lid off this attitude. They are not being entitled for their sake but for their child's, which means they are the perfect parent and therefore must be deified for being an arsehole, not vilified.

I agree OP. Self absorbed people just become a thousand times worse if they have kids because 'mememe' becomes 'me and my child'.

She sounds like a nightmare.

That sounds quite sad, does she not realise that her child is a separate person to her?

I had a few friends who never bothered to visit when I had my son, they text to say "can you bring him round to US?!". When I refused and asked them to come to me, because I didn't want to waddle my stitched together fanjita over to their house with a newborn. They left their "gifts" with a woman who was the mother of my other friend (because they lived on the same street as her) and that was that. The gifts were newborn size snowsuits and my son was born at the end of May ha!

Despite all that I never felt the need to put such dramatic rubbish on facebook. She sounds like an oversharing facebook chav but she does have a point that we do find out who our friends are once we have children.

She's probably lonely as she's realising nobody wants to spend time with her or her PFB. Nobody has to love your kids!

Hmm if she's anything like me she might have found that her friends were all thrilled with the new baby but kind of faded away as their child got older. My closest friend that was practically a sister has completely disappeared. Not just from me but from them and it stings a little to be honest.
I would never make a post about it though, I think it's common

I agree. A colleague of mine was a pregnant bore and expected special treatment all the time even tho I was 3months further on and just cracking on with it.
She is now a mummy bore who literally can't do anything but her hours, no flexibiity whatsoever while the rest of us do whatever we can to be flexible. we have just had the Christmas rota and she said "I need it all off as I have kids"
We literally all have kids!!

My world revolves around my child (and DW, a bit :)) but I don't expect others too.

However, I do expect close family members (DM, DF for example) not to book family meals at restaurants that DC wouldn't like.

@krustykittens is dead right these people were always bores now they have a specific reason. I mean sometimes you need to bring your kid with your to meet a friend but you can usually text in advance and tell them and offer to cancel if they want.

I agree with @krustykittens. I have a bff who sends photos of her pfb all the time. I love him and i do love a photo but it always feels like she has something to prove and i have to think of a nice thing to reply without getting repetitive.

I wouldnt care i am pregnant at the mo so thats probably affecting my interest

oversharing facebook chav

Nice

I'm currently pregnant and this is one of my fears –that I'll turn into someone like that. I'm hoping that being terrified of it happening and being self-aware will prevent that from being the case! I've told my DP to cut me off if I start posting pics of our baby covered in its own shit or post numerous 'inspirational' memes about how wonderful being a parent is.

Well she's made her point which she's entitled to, so just roll with it. It probably comes from insecurity or an anticipated snub.

But she might find herself rather friendless when her child becomes a teen.

Sounds like maybe she's upset by a particular friend/family member and uses public forums to make her point and vent rather than addressing the directly.

Well I find it less annoying then dog owners who think life revolves around their dog!

You often hear people saying that 'having a child makes you less selfish' whereas in reality it just means they extend their selfishness to include their child as well.

Some people are just self absorbed. And if they were self absorbed before they had children, they will continue to be self absorbed afterwards. But because it is so unusual for them to think about anyone else they assume that the fact they now have to put their child first means they have become a less selfish person in general.

I know someone who posts things like this who is making a point to her MIL, who lives down the road but barely sees the Grandchildren who live there, but frequently travels 26 miles to do child care for the 'other' Grandchildren!

However, I do expect close family members (DM, DF for example) not to book family meals at restaurants that DC wouldn't like.

are you serious,so your dictating on your DC's behalf, wow

Yes, but I wouldn't be winging about it on social media though.

I think it’s common for people to lose friends following the birth of their first child and it sucks. I felt very isolated after DC1 was born because I certainly learnt who were my true friends and not... Some people come to coo at the newborn then never contact again.