AIBU by not telling my DD that Father Christmas isn't real

[kimmy3001]

Ok so. DD1 is 8 and I'm pretty sure she knows Santa isn't real. She says most of her classmates don't believe and she asks me pretty suspicious questions although not the blunt one of "is Santa fake" I think she just goes along with all the "Santa is coming soon" just to amuse me. I know she's getting older and I should be honest but my problem is I've got 2 younger DC (6 & 3) and they are still firmly in all the magic that Father Christmas brings. Should I be honest with her and risk her telling the younger ones?? (which is likely during one of their sisterly spats) Help?

If you already think she is just humouring you then I'd just play along, obviously don't try and convince her he's real but you probably don't need to explicitly say it!

I got to the point of asking my parents as a child, they told me the truth, and then made it very clear that if I told my younger siblings that would be the end of my stocking presents forever.

If you think there's a chance she'd tell the younger ones then not a chance, she'll figure it out eventually and if she asks blatantly just say well what do you think about Santa etc.

She's 8, so old enough to not believe if she has worked it out by now. I would tell her the truth.

My parents never told me Santa wasn't real. Obviously I figured it out but there's no harm in playing along especially as there's younger siblings.
If she asks you outright then don't lie but give her the special job of 'being Santa' for her younger siblings. Let her stay up a bit later and put gifts out with you etc.

Thanks guys. We've all always been big on Christmas and wanted to keep the magic alive for as long as possible. Although I do think she would absolutely love the responsibility of helping be Santa... when the time is right. For now if she's happy to humour me I'll be more than happy to play along

I think 8 is early! And of course whilst there is even the slightest doubt, she doesn't really want to know the truth as that's the magic gone forever! I'd definitely let her have one more Christmas.
My DD was 10 and still believed. I thought she must look at total tit at school still believing at that age. So I told her. And included the tooth fairy whilst I was at it!! Oh God, the drama! She really had no idea! She said everyone at school said he wasn't real but she knew he was so just ignored them!
She's about to be a doctor so couldn't have been that stupid!

mamamedic that's exactly what I was afraid of! That I'd completely got it wrong and she's not just humouring me.

I have 2 older Dsis so found out quite young (through a sisterly spat) and can remember how gutted I was and although I've always loved Christmas the spark was gone. Thankfully that spark came back when I had DC I know she still believes in the tooth fairy and gets a bit excited when she visits one of her Dsis.