Am I being selfish?

[nameoftheuser]

Loving gps are great with dts. I've recently gone back to work but planning on being a sahm. Gps think I'm being selfish because they've established a routine 3 days a week.

They love them to bits but don't respect me as a mum. When I said I was returning to work part time, mil asked why not full time. She also tried to discourage breastfeeding and picking them up when they were newborn - you'll spoil them.

It's too much I want to be with my dts. They are under 1 years old and I love being with them. Am I being selfish?

Because they also need their gps and gps need to establish a bond. 🙄

They only need you.
Gps are a bonus - if the are deserving of their title.

@MiniCooperLover

So they mind your DTs while you work? That's an unfortunate arrangement to have if you're trying to assert your place as their DM.

Say what now? Nursery minds my daughter while I work, because i have to. I'm bloody certain the ladies there are not her mum. What a bizarre thing to say.

So they mind your DTs while you work? That's an unfortunate arrangement to have if you're trying to assert your place as their DM

No it isn't. At the end of the day the parent has the only say when it comes to their children. They shouldn't be made to feel bad for wanting to be a sahm. The GPS can still see the children if the OP chooses to let them, IF it suits her and she thinks it's in their best interests. It's not a god given right.

I do think it can be very important for children to have a relationship with their grandparents but not if it demeans the parents.

Because they also need their gps and gps need to establish a bond. 🙄

So do your parents have the DC three days a week too, as gps bonding is so important? I am guessing not. OP do what is best for you and your family.

No they don't you're right. Thanks everyone for your support.

She also tried to discourage breastfeeding and picking them up when they were newborn - you'll spoil them.

Does she pick them up now? Or leave them to cry?

Pick them up.