Me and DH have been together 10 years, two kids. Hes on the spectrum, so can be hard to deal with anyway. He's always been abit of a miserable bugger but the last couple of years it's become almost unbearable. Politics, his work, his friends, his family, world events, everything is just doom and gloom and he constantly has to 'enlighten' me. Im scared to have an opposing opinion as he expects a full, masters degree level debate about everything. He's confrontational in his manner, no matter who the person is. No-one can simply say 'i agree/disagree'. He requires sources, and doesn't allow emotional or psychological events in someone's life override fact or factor in how it makes them think or feel towards a situation. He has suffered with depression on/off throughout his life but never does anything about it. He's a 'creative' and feels no satisfaction unless he's doing exactly what he wants, which unfortunately doesn't pay well. I bend over backwards to accommodate him, to the point it's detrimental to my own life. I can't change my job no matter how much I hate it because the change in routine would upset him, I mostly clean the house and do the childcare by myself bar one weekend day where he looks after them by himself. On this day, on more than several occasions, I've gotten a barrage of messages about how he's not coping. He's a very intelligent, articulate person, but very one track minded (as ASD people tend to be) and just never seems to be happy, regardless of how much easier I try to make his life. As such I'm so depressed and genuinely losing the will. I love him, and care for him deeply, but I feel like I have another child. He IS high functioning. He's very organised when it's something he knows well. I have alot of patience and understanding, I truley do. But I dont know how to manage this anymore. This is more of a rant than anything so I apologise if it's nonsensical.