To ask questions at nursery?

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Does anyone here work in a preschool/nursery? When I pick up my son from nursery I always engage in conversation about how he's doing etc. Staff are always happy to have a chat about him, usually lasts a couple of minutes. I just wonder if they like to encourage such chat (especially as son has special needs and so his progress needs monitoring) or if they are secretly thinking 'will this woman just shut up and take their son home' thoughts?

No-one here can answer that really

But if the actual staff seem happy enough, I can't see it's a problem.

I always expect a couple of mins to hear if he has had a good day, but if you’ve arrive minutes before closing or after his time is up then YABU.

thats fine. It's called a handover and it's part of their job.

Hi, I used to! No, they won't be thinking that. We were always told we had to talk to the parents about the childs day in detail! I think anything longer than afew minutes that you wanted to chat about, ie, Lo development or anything concerning you that you might want to chat in more detail over, then you could schedule an informal meeting, as it's quite a busy time as parents arrive to pick up children, but yes absolutely ask about your childs day, it's lovely that your so interested.

Depends what time you turn up. It's fine if it's not closing time. Bit cheeky if it's at closing time and everyone is waiting to go home.

I think it’s fine but personally as a cm I wish sometimes my parents could pick up hints that I need to go. I have some real chatterboxes and most of the time it’s fine but other times the dinner is ready or ww3 is breaking out and I literally have to say ‘so sorry can you go as I need to get on’. A parent who is a bit more aware of this would be great. I do make myself as available as possible but it’s not always convenient.

Presumably you pay a lot of money for childcare and it is part of the nursery worker’s job to keep you informed on how your child is doing, so I wouldn’t worry about asking at all, provided you’re there before closing. They sound better than our nursery, I get a “yes he had a good day, bye” every evening!

Thanks all. His pick up time is 3 hours before nursery closes for the kids who stay for the evening shift (my son only does school hours) And I'm always 15 mins early. They don't show any hints they want me to go, but I do feel guilty as I do ask questions every time. They are applying for extra funding and an EHCP for him so that seems to need extra chat quite often as there's is a lot of evidence needed to support his application. X

I work in a nursery and it's expected no need to worry xx

My DS's key person always tells me what he's been up to, what he's eaten, what sort of mood he's been in. I've never just walked in and walked out with him.

That's normal, even if I don't ask questions the staff give me a rundown of dc1's day which lasts a few minutes. They also spend their time fussing dc2 who is too little for nursery yet.

Brilliant thank you! I'll keep asking my questions guilt free 😊