"OP asked for thread to go as her question was answered."

[cheesefield]

Even this is allowed now?

Even when it's not a distressing discussion, no privacy concerns, and no trolling?

If people can request a thread is deleted because a question has been answered MN may as well get rid of the search function. I'm more pissed off about the reason given for the deletion than the deletion itself. I'd have been less pissed off fine with 'the OP realises she's been a bit of an arse about this and is embarrassed and would like the thread to be deleted'.

@BertramKibbler - I must be no one then because I do before I start one

Of course people should be allowed to ask for a thread to be deleted. Of course MN should listen to the people who post. This is how this forum works. Advertisers pay to advertise here because we come and engage. And if a poster starts a thread about their own personal situation, or anything else and wants it deleted. So what,

"The OP just didn't like the good and sensible points people were making apparently." Who said the comments were sensible, the OP? Even if they were, what's the big issue?

The OP in this instance wasn't posting about a personal issue. She was complaining about a general issue where she felt discrimination was taking place against women (not just her specifically) and she was told she was wrong.

Hm, if that is a reason every OP should be able to just have their thread removed.

I wouldn't mind either way, but always thought an OP has little power over deletions.

I came on here because I Googled something and it lead me to MN. I searched for a situation similar to my own by putting in one word and I got all the answers I needed at that time. Surely that is the marvel of sites like this. The wealth of hive mind knowledge and wisdon within?

I suspect an awful lot of posters are like me and stumbled her and stayed for years.

I've only once had a thread deleted at my own request. It really was a very identifying situation, which I hadn't really taken on board when I started it. More importantly it was also going to be distressing to other innocent people if the DM got hold of it. I received a lot of support, not quite an unanimous Yanbu, but not far short of it, and certainly wasn't being kicked about - the couple of Yabu replies were thoughtful fair points, not abusive. I do agree that there doesn't seem to be consistency about which threads get deleted and which don't though.

Personally I wish that instead of getting rid of Chat auto-deleting, HQ had decided to auto-delete AIBU after 90 days unless it is deemed worthy of being moved, either to Classics or to the appropriate section where it probably should have been posted in the first place but was started in AIBU 'for traffic'. Finding old threads is beginning to become like searching for a needle in a haystack.

I was incredibly annoyed about that deletion.

It seemed clear to me that the OP just didn't like the answers she was getting. Her view was that charging fees for missed gym classes is discriminatory as it disproportionately affects women who are more likely to have to cancel to care for sick kids. Most replies disagreed.

Posters can hide a thread and name change if they want. Mumsnet is a public forum, and known for robust discussion - people know that when they post. Deletion means a useful discussion is lost and all the posters who have contributed to the thread have just wasted their time. It really puts me off writing detailed, helpful (I hope!) posts, knowing they are likely to just be deleted.

"Posters can hide a thread and name change if they want. Mumsnet is a public forum, and known for robust discussion - people know that when they post. Deletion means a useful discussion is lost and all the posters who have contributed to the thread have just wasted their time. It really puts me off writing detailed, helpful (I hope!) posts, knowing they are likely to just be deleted."

As far as I am aware mumsnet can do with the posts as they wish so they could delete. We all know that when we post. I get that it is annoying but I still think it is fair that posters can request to delete.

I agree that it's fair posters can request to delete. I would however expect MNHQ to then consider whether deletion is really warranted. It seems very common now for threads to be deleted just because the OP isn't getting the responses they expected. I mean, why ask a question if you have already decided you will only accept one answer?

It's annoying when you've taken the time to offer friendly helpful advice to someone on a thread that has become quite confrontational and seconds after you've posted it the thread is deleted.
As happened to me on that particular thread😡

MNHQ don’t delete on a whim. I think sometimes people come across as more aggressive and confrontational than they either realise or intend to. That’s why the threads are taken down.

I was on a thread the other day about foetal movements and the op got a bit shirty with all the people telling her to go to hospital. Thread disappeared as the op deregistered apparently. I would argue that it is more valuable to others to keep these types of threads so the next woman with reduced foetal movements can read the experiences of the posters and get her arse to hospital and get monitored.

If it's the case that a thread is being deleted for being a pile on though I think it would be more helpful if that was reflected in the deletion message.

I had no idea that threads vanished when people deregistered, do all their posts go poof?

I wish more threads could be deleted. I used to mainly start threads in chat where they would disappear. Now that has changed you are left with 30 or 90 days only which don’t get much traffic.

I absolutely think that if an OP thinks better of it then they should be able to delete. It is their information. In fact, I wish it had gone the other way and everything got deleted (or posters could choose) instead of pretty much everything staying.

I know I have posted stuff in the past, particularly in relationships, that was really helpful for me to do at the time but I would much rather it didn’t stay around for ever. Of all the topics I think relationships and sex should auto delete.

@Bertram
Sorry, I should have been clearer that I think MNHQ decided to delete BECAUSE she’d deregistered