To not take her?

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Dd has asd, she can not deal with a break in her routine, especially when it comes to school. she loves school and if she is sick so needs to be picked up early well all hell breaks loose! last time this happened she screamed and screamed, she kicked she was hitting the bus stop screaming (i couldnt get her on a bus for about 45 minutes) she wet herself (didnt tell me she needed to go) and was hysterical for around 3 hours after picking her up! she has had a tooth ache and hasnt been eating at school so i managed to get her an emergency apointment for today at 2pm only she is refusing to allow me to pick her up early. aibu to not take her to school? the problem is it means not taking my other 2. please dont be too harsh im not sure what else to do!

the told me about groups but i have a young baby so not easy to get to! we manage atm as she hardly ever ill luckily! but when she is i dread it.

That sounds incredibly difficult. You should do the best you can for today. I hope you make it to the dentist ok.

Have you ever posted in the SN boards? There are some knowledgeable people there who might be able to suggest ways to acccess more help.

we made it to the dentist, dd needs a filling, devastated tbh! shes so difficult with teeth brushing. feel awful about it, dentist said she wasnt comfortable doing it at the dental clinic and said my dd will have to do it under GA which is going to be difficult

Will check out the SN board thanks.

Sounds like a difficult situation .
I think you made the right choice. Hope your dd feels better soon

Oh no, your poor DD! Would gas and air be an option? It’s faster and easier than GA.

Booboo Not everyone relaxes completely under laughing gas and sedation esp a SN child can be a challenge. My son is 18 but has CP and even younger he’s stronger than a team of oxen. We’ve been getting by restraining him in a papoose board for dental exams and cleaning. Brushing his teeth is challenging because he has an oral sensory aversion. Good luck OP IDK how yo manage a SN and two theta as well alone.

“And even younger he was strong as an oxen” I meant

Hi OP, I’m a mum to an asd child, also 7 with delayed understanding. I know it’s been mentioned before on the thread but I’ve always found bribery to really help. If there’s anything at all that she gets really really excited for (bubbles/balloons/ice cream etc) it might help to have pictures of everything to help bribe them so for instance - a picture of dentist office & a picture of ice cream. I’d ask if she wants ice cream & when she says yes I’d reply ‘okay, dentist first, then ice cream’ and I’d say that on repeat until we saw the dentist basically. I don’t know if that would help your situation at all?

The dentist said she could have done it then and there but wasnt happy to incase my dd moved during the procedure, which she kept doing whilst the dentist examined her (sitting up/closing her mouth etc). I dont think bribary would work but will try it for the hospital app in a couple of weeks

Tell me about it Older, all it did was make me sob uncontrollably!

It’s a suggestion, if the OP has tried it or thinks it would make ma

Sorry, iPad playing up.

...make matters worse, then it’s pointless. However if it works it avoids a GA which can be complicated for some people, e.g. needles.

Does she have a toy doctor and dentist kit? Playing with that and being rewarded for acting out medical procedures might help.

Ask your dentist to refer you to a specialist dentist. They will be much more understanding both of the needs and the importance of the right appointment time!

My normal dentist thought ds needed three fillings and would need a GA due to his needs. When we saw the specialist dentist she agreed that wasn’t needed and is going to do treatment to protect the teeth (baby teeth) over three or more appointments doing what he is comfy with eaxh time

Booboosywo Oh that is an awful reaction that must’ve been just horrible! Wow! I’d be so anxious going for routine dental visits if that happened to me in the past. It just seems like advances in science would help with challenges like this vs other trivial things?

is that possible to see a specialist?? the school are on at me about it (perfectly understandable) as dd is refusing to eat! The hospital will apparently take a couple of weeks.

No advice but lots of sympathy and well wishes. Similar situation with my ASD dd. The impact it has on her sibling is so tough.

Have you come across this? They have a helpline for finding a specialist dentist.

www.dentalhealth.org/dental-care-for-people-with-special-needs

oh brilliant! will take a look.